My first Singaporean ER experience…

Let me start with…I’m fine, Ravi’s fine, Elanor’s fine.

If you’ve been unfortunate enough to have been following my twitter/fb feed you know I’ve been suffering gastrointestinal distress since Wednesday.  When I couldn’t go to bed on Friday going into Saturday  because I couldn’t leave the bathroom long enough and I was starting to show signs of dehydration, I made the call around 4am to just go to the ER as I didn’t think a regular clinic would have necessarily have the stuff to rehydrate me (and waiting an extra 5 hours would make me that much more exhausted/sick/dehydrated).

I went to Mount Elizabeth Hospital, one of the private hospitals close by.  When I took E to the pediatrician, we went to a public clinic and while it was okay, I wanted to see if the private hospitals were closer to the standard of care from Boston.

In many ways, it was a standard medical experience.  Short version of why you’re here, are you allergic to any meds, temperature and blood pressure.  Ward with four beds and the curtains between them.  Bed with rails, pillow covered in plastic under the pillow case.  I got two liters of fluid via iv, was given meds and sent home.

But it many ways it was a radically different experience.

As you sign in, you have to tell them how you’re going to pay–as in cash, nets (debit card) or credit card.  Rates are posted clearly by the check in counter on a sliding scale depending on what time of day it is.  Overnight is most expensive at $120S ($85 USD).  Locals and permanent residents go to the public hospitals and their care is subsidized.  In our case, we have private insurance, but we pay for our care up front and then get reimbursed.

Some of the differences between the hospitals I’m used to in Boston and Mount Elizabeth might be the same sort of differences between Boston hospitals and more rural American hospitals.  After all, most hospitals aren’t affialiated with major medical schools or the recipients of multi-million dollar studies. But that is the standard of care I’m used to.

In many ways, the experience in Singapore was far more straightforward.  By luck, there wasn’t anyone there, so I didn’t have to wait several hours just to be seen.  I told them my symptoms and they treated me for the most likely reason for them.  This was a pretty radical difference from the last time I was seen for acute gastroenteritis in Boston, where I not only was given meds and fluids but had abdominable imaging and was in the hospital for close to 20 hours. There was nothing on the tubing of my IV to beep annoyingly and to alarm when the bag was close to being empty–a nurse just visually checked it every once and a while.

But part of me (the paranoid American part?) wonders if this really is a good thing…I wonder what would happen in a case like Elanor at a week old…where someone is close to death. I’m sure it wasn’t, but the hospital seemed fairly dead and the two other patients who came in during the two hours I was there were also briskly treated and sent home.  Without the more thorough testing, how much slips past them and becomes more serious?  But inversely, isn’t one of the biggest issues in the US exactly that–ridiculously staggering overhead for testing and such just to “rule stuff out”?

The other glaring difference was that no one asked me about medications I was currently taking or about medical conditions.  As it turns out, the antibiotic I was given is most likely contraindicated for me as I have a history with depression…which I only learned after googling it.  I was just given the meds (unlike the US where you have to leave the dr and go to a pharmacy, dr’s offices and hospitals have in house pharmacies–most likely because the country has super strict laws about the dispensation of medication–but it’s also a huge time saver) and sent home without the sort of fact sheets that I’ve always gotten at home (list the medication, describe possible side effects, etc).

What I’ve learned is that you really have to self-advocate.  The doc seemed (and this is just from reading body language) a little unconvinced as to the necessity of fluids, but hey-I’m paying so whatever.  I also could have chosen to check myself in and wait to see a specialist in the morning if I hadn’t wanted to go home with the antibiotic to wait and see how things went over the next few days.

I think it’s good that my first few experiences with doctors here (Elanor’s diaper rash, my gastroenteritis) were for fairly mild things because it’s been a learning experience.   I know next time to come prepared with a list of medications, past medical history and to google any medications myself.  If I think more should be examined, I know to push for it.

To be clear, there’s nothing WRONG with the medical treatment we’ve received here.  The offices are clean, if spartan.  Everyone washed their hands/wore gloves, etc.  I saw the equipment taken out of sterile packaging.  I was impressed when I was successfully IV’d on the first try (especially as they weren’t using a finer gauge needle).  It was fast-I was in and out in under 2 hours–totally unheard of in Boston, where I considered a 4-5 hour visit to be super short.  The total bill was $230S ($164 USD) including medication, which I’ll be reimbursed for, when my co-pay for just the ER visit in the US was $100 (with what is considered a very good insurance play) and then I would have had co-pays on the medications…probably ending up spending about the same amount of money out of pocket without reimbursement (and it would have been a fragment of the much larger bill my insurance company would have paid).  Most importantly, I’m feeling better if not fully normal 36 hours later.

In the end, I think I’m perfectly comfortable with the docs here for the run of the mill stuff, but I am SUPER grateful that GNB’s health policy is a global one.  All of Elanor’s specialists in the US will continue to see her (and we’ll do her 2 year well baby check up in the US with her old pedi as well) and I know for sure that I will be FAR more comfortable with them as her primary medical team.  If she weren’t stable we wouldn’t have moved; but we are lucky that her check-ups can be part of our two yearly visits home.  I’m also comfortable because with all of Elanor’s conditions (and the fact that all of her docs had an opinion about everything–and they didn’t agree most of the time) I’m used to advocating and questioning in medical situations.  But if it were a more serious concern, I’d want to get on the first plane home to be taken care of by US docs.

For those of you who have received medical treatment outside the US–what was your experience like (especially if you’ve been treated in the US for comparison, but even if you haven’t–speak up!)?  Do you think that regardless, if you spend 30 years getting one standard of care, all others are naturally suspect?

A common sight in Singapore

So I was looking out of my sixth floor living room window and saw this…

So what, you might ask me…it’s the building across the intersection, right?

Ah…but look closer my friends…those dots, on the far right, 2/3rd of the way down?

Building cleaners, hanging off rigging connected to the top of the building.

It totally freaks me out every time I see it.

I realize that you see this in Boston, too.  I’ve seen them doing the windows at the Hancock, but it freaked me out there too and there are more high rise buildings here.

Maybe this is what the Natick Mall needs?

As I’ve said before, Singapore is a country of malls.  It is wall to wall malls.  There are even malls in the underground passes you use to avoid trying to cross busy streets.  Malls that connect malls.  Malls just outside the subway entrance in case you need a shopping fix before your journey or if the 15 minutes you’ve spent on the subway have left you jonesing for your next hit.

With all of those malls, I imagine it’s hard to stand out from the competition.  In order to do so, some malls specialize..there’s the Funan IT mall (which is all IT related stores) the Forum mall (which specializes in kids shops with a few nods to the “moms,” like a shoe store) or Lucky Plaza (which markets itself to the large Filipino population).  Others, like The City Square Mall, market themselves on being unique–The City Square Mall is the first fully green mall in Singapore and has an integrated urban park.  Finally, there are the gimmicks…Suntec City Mall used to be the biggest mall in Singapore (until Vivo City opened) and now it advertises itself based on its Fountain of Wealth (which is claims is the biggest in the world).  Vivo City, the current largest mall in the country, on the other hand has….the Drummer Boys (along with a rooftop wading pool and a lower level kids play area…very rare in Singapore).

They perform 2x a day on Fridays, Weekends, and Holidays.  They march around the mall doing their thing and then do a show in the middle of the mall.

BTW-in the right hand upper corner, you’re also seeing part of a fashion show cohosted by Levis and some car company.  If you like this sort of thing, there are much better videos of them on Youtube.

The gimmicks to get you into the malls are truly astounding…maybe Natick should try it since they’ve been suffering a downturn in foot traffic?

Happy Vesak Day!

Today is Vesak Day, one of Singapores National Holidays.  Theoretically it’s a day off from work for everyone  (sadly, Ravi’s team is working on a project and they all went into the office, so he’s missing out) and a special holiday if you’re Buddhist.

According to a Festivals of Singapore page,

The festival celebrated with great ceremonial ritual by Buddhists is Vesak Day, which commemorates the birth and enlightenment of Buddha and his entry into Nirvana.

The day starts with chanting of the sutras by saffronclad monks, while devotees visit the temples to pray and meditate and to make offerings. Acts of generosity known as dana are observed by Buddhist organizations and temples. These include the freeing of caged birds and animals, visiting and giving alms to the poor and needy, while some Buddhist youths organize mass blood donation at hospitals. The celebration concludes with a candlelit procession through the streets. Observers as well as devotees are welcome to join in the celebration at Buddhist temples.

Sadly, I can’t tell you about any of this firsthand as I am sick.  Maybe next year.

Milo (updated)

Milk is available in Singapore, but it’s expensive.  Like everything, it’s imported.  You get whole milk (“fresh milk”) and they have something called Hi-lo (which is supposed to be lowfat milk) but you can’t get 2%, 1%, buttermik, heavy cream, etc.  Restaurants (with the exception of McDonald’s) do not give milk with kids meals…instead, all toddlers/little kids drink Milo.

According to the Milo Singapore page…

In 2006, MILO® commemorates its 22nd year of production in Singapore – a fact unknown to many.  MILO® is and has been produced in Singapore since 1984.  Singaporeans’ favourite energy drink is a staple of many Singaporeans’ diet and is popular across generations.  Many fondly remember waking up to a hot cup of MILO® prepared with love and affection by their mothers in their childhood or the ever popular MILO® van, at sporting events.

It’s a chocolate drink.  I think it’s prepared with either hot or cold water, and at restaurants it’s served over ice in the kids meals.

The first time I ran into Milo was at the KFC at the zoo (the only restaurant in the Kidzworld area).  I had asked for milk and I thought they’d given me chocolate milk.  After several minutes of cultural confusion, I was finally made to understand that while it’s a “milk drink” (it has powdered milk in it) it’s not milk and they don’t serve milk at all.  I was completely thrown, but wrote it off as a random occurrence.

As we’ve eaten at a wider variety of food places, with the noted exception of McDonald’s I have run into Milo again and again.  You can substitute soda for Milo, but when I’ve asked for water instead, I’ve been given the kind of look I’d only expect to see if I had asked if I could have some weapons-grade plutonium with my kids meal.

I asked my helper, B, about it as she’s been helping raise kids in Singapore for the past 3 years.  She told me that milk is very expensive (a 2L bottle is the cost of a gallon of milk at home) and people don’t have that kind of money to give kids milk.  So either they’re breastfed or have formula and then start drinking Milo fairly young.  Milk is seen as something only for older kids (because they won’t spill it?  because they don’t drink as much liquid in a day as little kids?  not sure…) and that it’s too much for little ones. (Please see correction below from a local mom)

The idea of giving my 18 month old a chocolate drink seems pretty unnecessary and the start down the path to sugary drink addiction, so I haven’t given it to her yet.  I realize that my resistance is pretty American of me…but I didn’t realize how American until I saw the comments on a recent Motherlode (NYTimes parenting blog) post entitled “Two products I just don’t understand”-one was a chocolate toddler formula not unlike Milo (the other was denim colored diapers).

The almost universal reaction was horror.  There was some discussion about the notion of toddler formula in general (and I’m not trying to start that war here) but the idea of giving toddlers chocolate flavored anything was anathema.

Am I product of my culture or am I right to be wary of Milo and it’s strangely compelling grip on the country (grocery stores have H-U-G-E displays of Milo)?  Or am I just refusing to take part in a culture I have chosen to move to? (Then again, it’s not like either Ravi or I are willing to try pig snout soup either).

Well, when it comes to Milo, I think I get a free pass…because Elanor doesn’t like chocolate.  She doesn’t like M&M’s, she did not like the chocolate on some ice cream I offered her, and she rarely likes products with chocolate in them (chocolate chip cookies and ice cream sandwiches are her exceptions).  I have a hard time seeing her like this stuff…which is my excuse and I’m sticking with it.

*********Updated to Add*****************

I just got the following comment from a local Singaporean mom and I wanted to add part of her comment into the post as a correction.

I’m a mother myself, and my kid drinks Milk on a regular basis. I don’t really like to let her drink Milo often, but it is something which is more of a treat for her. She is five now, and drinks both powdered milk and fresh milk.

I’ve encountered the same No Milk problem at KFC, Burger King, most restaurants in fact, except for Mac’s, you’re right. But I would think tht the main reason for mums giving their younger kids Milo in these places is that it comes in a set kiddy meal, the only other choice is a carbonated soft drink, its accepted in our culture as a healthy/energy drink, so they just shrug and accept it.

Honestly, I doubt many Singaporean households actually find milk expensive…. a 1L pack of HL Milk (you called it HiLo) is only about 2 plus dollars, and UHT Milks are only $1.90 per 1L packet. I don’t even have any idea how much milk costs in the states, so how do we compare? Is it really that expensive?

For mums, especially those of my generation, we would be aware of the importance of calcium for our kids, and cost wouldnt be that great of a factor in this case.

I would think rather, that the businesses in question find Milo more profitable than Milk. (It being a powdered drink that can be bought directly from the factory in Singapore).

When I bring my girl out for meals, I bring a bottle of water, or a packet of UHT Milk.

A point of clarity–UHT Milk is Ultra High Temperature Processed milk that does not need to be refrigerated until opened.  It has a shelf life of 6 months.  It totally freaks me out.

Universal Studios Singapore

Note in advance–sorry for the crappy formatting…I tried to fix it and can’t.  This will also take forever to load because of multiple vids and plenty of photos.  Sorry.

Universal Studios Singapore is newly open.  We went during the “soft open” in late April before the official open on May 1.

I’m not sure what the FL or CA Universal Studios are like, but he one in Singapore is pretty small.  There are different main areas-Hollywood/New York where it’s mostly shops, shows and food.  There’s a Sci-Fi area with one ride (not yet open) and one that will open in a year.  There’s Jurassic Park (with rides themed on the movie), a Shrek area, a Madagascar area and an Egypt area..
This is right inside the main gate by a Mel’s Diner.  They do several numbers, all stolen from “Hairspray” with slightly re-worked words. Go here if the vid doesn’t load.

The Sci-Fi area is currently BSG Themed.  There’s going to be some kind of big Transformers thing in a year or two, but right now it’s just the BSG coaster (which is currently not operational due to a safety hazard or something).

When it opens, though it’s going to be awesome.  They’ve set it up as a pair of dueling coasters themed “Human” and “Cylon” (only makes sense if you know the show).  Cylon is also the only coaster at Universal that will go upside down, so it’s totally a bummer that it’s not open yet.

Right now with the coaster closed, they just have the BSG themed store and some people dressed all “sci-fi” walking around on stilts, like this….

Look!  I’m tall and shiny–don’t I make up for the lack of two rollercoasters?

The Egypt area is actually themed after The Mummy movies.  I’m a bit puzzled as to why…although I can’t dispute Brendan Fraser’s hotness (in the first one, anyways) it’s not like they were GOOD movies.  The resulting two rides in this area are also kind of lame.  There’s a kid friendly “treasure hunt” ride, which is just sitting in a buggy while poorly animated things that aren’t even remotely scary (even to Ella) lethargically move towards you (and you can hear the gears moving at several points).  There’s an indoor roller coaster but I heard people complaining that it sucked so I didn’t waste my time on it.

But there are photo ops, like this, so it’s not a total waste of space….

I don’t have any pics from Jurassic Park.  The coaster there was fun, if super short.  There were also some kid rides that E missed due to her nap.

There’s a giant spectacular show, but it’s not stroller friendly, so as E was napping, we missed it.

However, we next entered…

Confession time…I lurve me some Shrek (well, not Shrek 3, but let’s all pretend it was just a mass hallucination and forget it ever happened, m’kay?).

There’s a great 4-D show with the premise being Lord Farquart’s ghost has come back to haunt them, and is going to kidnap Fiona, etc.  E even sat through it, although the pre-show in the lobby goes on FOREVER, so with young kids, wait to enter for as long as possible.  She didn’t keep the glasses on, so I’m not sure why she was so enraptured, but she was.

There’s a kiddy ferris wheel in The Fairy Godmother’s Potion Shop, but I didn’t put E on it alone and it’s too small to go on with her.  There was also a coaster themed like Dragon, and it was cute, but not really impressive as coasters go.

Finally we get to Madagascar, which has a store (natch), food stall, and King Julien’s Merry Go Round.  They also have the following show, which is impressive when you take into account how freaking hot Singapore is (mid to high 90s the day I shot this plus high humidity)…not sure how someone hasn’t passed out in these costumes….

Then they stand around and pose for pictures…cah-rahzy.

And that’s about it…except that there’s a huge fountain outside…and well, the inevitable happened

Fountain 1, Elanor 0

In the end, I did get a membership for the next year.  If I go six times (and I will for lack of better stuff to do, and because E loved the live shows, even the ones I thought were kind of lame) it will have more than paid for itself.

As there’s nothing better, it’s not bad…but Six Flags in Mass could crush it like a bug, much less the bigger parks I’ve been to like Disneyland.

Homesickness

Ravi and I have both been homesick this week…and often for small moments since we’ve been here, but it definitely centers around certain things…

Missing our friends and our family.  It’s so odd that we can’t just meet you for dinner, go over and play bridge at your house, have you come spend a day with us.  Luckily we’ve always recalled the time difference, so no one has gotten the 2am phone call…but I know that’s when I tend to be most homesick.  When it’s the middle of the afternoon here and I’m doing something that I’d love to share with a friend or have some downtime and would just like to connect with a friend and it’s the middle of the night there.  It’s not that I don’t know that I COULD call (some of) you anyways, but it’s never been bad enough homesickness to warrant it.

Things that are just hard here, that feel like they shouldn’t be. Usually stupid stuff, like figuring out where to buy a shower rod with spring tension instead of twist tension, or what temperature to set the oven to cook something at 375 degrees F.  The small things just make us sigh, and realize that you never appreciate the stupid small stuff every day.  Even just trying to find certain stuff like a non-skid mat for the tub can turn into an all day search when before I would just go to Target and pick up 17 other things while I was there.

Stuff we can’t buy here. I’m beginning to think that grape jam is as fake as “blue raspberry” slushies.  Grocery stores here have the widest variety of any place I’ve ever been when it comes to jams and jellies and none of the 73,602 flavors is grape…which is, of course, my favorite.  Ravi is missing Twinkies.  I live in fear of how a pregnancy will go without heavily salted Premium Saltines (they have the salt-less ones here and other salt-less crackers).  There’s tons of other examples, but we just made our grocery list so food is sort of foremost in my brain right now.

I realize that we’re lucky.  My helper has a 7 year old daughter who she only gets to talk to on Skype once a week, and whom she hasn’t seen in person in over a year.  Ten years ago when I went to France for a month, I ran up a 2,000 dollar phone bill because there weren’t local sims for cell phones and no one had email, much less youtube, facebook, texting, skype and blogs like this one to stay in touch.  But when you’re homesick and all you want to do is hang out at Target with your friends or have a playdate at the Discovery Museum, you can feel every mile of the 10,000 that are between you and your loved ones.

But it’s hard not to miss our home…go here for the video…

Movies/Movie Theaters in Singapore

Yesterday I went to my second movie in Singapore.  The first was an art house theater’s showing of “Away We Go” (which, as an aside, I think was an AWESOME movie) and yesterday I saw “Shrek 4″ (also recommended, although not as highly as “Away We Go”).

Booking/Buying a Ticket

Same

  • expensive tickets (10 bucks, which is a bit cheaper in US dollars)
  • easier to book online

Different

  • in Singapore you’re assigned a specific seat, sort of like seeing a pro sporting event or “real” theater in the US
  • No little machines…if you book online, you still have to get in a specific queue and wait

Concession Stands

Same

  • OMG Expensive…more than your ticket if you get popcorn, candy and a soda
  • They sell popcorn, candy, soda, and other snacks

Different

  • There are two types of popcorn…salty (what you get in the US) and sweet (haven’t tried it yet)
  • There is no “extra” butter/salt/toppings for your popcorn.
  • The “other snacks” include like spicy prawns on a stick (I took mental notes and have, of course, forgotten all of them now)
  • You can buy bags of chips (like big ones)
  • The candy selection is M&M’s, mentos, and 2 other things.  Unimpressive

Theaters

Same

  • they’re cold
  • arm rests are points of contention

Different

  • They’re SO COLD that the norm is to bring a sweatshirt/blanket.  This is the only place in the ENTIRE COUNTRY you need either (except “snow country” which I feel will have to be a whole other entry at a point in the future)

Previews

Same

  • Really long
  • There are commercials

Different

  • Almost every movie theater in the US I’ve been in shows stupid “pre-show” stuff like trivia, still ads, plays music, etc.  A movie theater here before the movie starts is stone silent and the screen is dark.
  • The start of the previews has been (for me) jarring because out of nowhere a huge image and loud sound start playing out of NOWHERE (and neither time has been “on time” so it’s kind of like a game of when will the noise come and scare the crap out of me).
  • In the US they show some commercials, then the previews, then the little song and dance about exits and no cell phones and then the movie starts….here it’s all “commercial” “Preview” “three commercials” “2 Previews” “ad for buying movie tickets online” “Previews” “commercial” “hey did the movie just start?”  I have yet to understand if there is actual rhyme, reason or pattern to it.  The previews and products advertised are not necessarily appropriate to the movie they’re being shown for (I kind of cringed at the Vagisil wash commercial before Shrek yesterday)

Movie

Same

  • There’s a movie

Different

  • Sometimes it has Chinese subtitles here (Away we go did, Shrek didn’t)
  • The volume is WAY LOUDER here (I often think they’re not loud enough in the US and here I could have done with a bit less)

OTHER Differences

  • Partially because I’m short, partially because I’m blind, and partially because I can lose myself in the movie if I’m not staring at the back of other people’s heads, I tend to sit fairly close to the screen.  Here the goal seems to be to sit as far back.  It has involved long discussions to get the seats I want for each movie because the people selling me the tickets seem to think I don’t understand HOW CLOSE I’ll be…the screen is RIGHT THERE!!!  I find the whole seat selection thing to be a pain in the ass, although at more sold out screenings I can see how it would be nice (I’ll remind my friends who did the IMAX Harry Potters with me how getting our seats was a little “Beyond Thunderdome.”)
  • For all that there ARE a lot of movie theaters in the country, only 10 or so movies are showing at any time.  Independent flicks and smaller movies just don’t make it here (major disappointment-I’ve been dying to see “Babies” since I saw the trailer months ago, but it came out after we left and it doesn’t seem to be coming here any time soon).
  • Movies that are wildly popular here puzzle me…”The Last Song,” the new J-Lo flick?  REALLY???  HUGE HUGE HUGE…can’t begin to explain how big those two are here.
  • They don’t play very long, or so I believe.
  • Most movie theaters are on the 4/5th floor of malls…I have yet to see/hear of one that’s freestanding.

I’ll try to take a camera next time to at least do some concession pics…I think you’d find them interesting.

Our new apartment

This is the apartment where we have signed a 2 year lease (they don’t really do 1 year leases or contracts here…our helper’s employment contract is a 2 year contract, our apartment, our cell phones, everything).

Don’t worry-we’re not sleeping on the floor…we’ve since added some IKEA furniture and a tv.  The rest of our stuff should be here in about 10ish days.

Baby Zebra at the Singapore Zoo

This video is from 2 weeks ago, but now that we’re in the “real” apartment I’ve only just had the bandwidth to finally upload it.

I took a video of the new apartment but I need to edit it before posting.

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