Traveling while pregnant

It is totally safe for a woman to fly until somewhere between her 32nd and 36th week, depending on her medical team’s opinion and the restrictions on a given airline.

However, this is not to say that it is necessarily easy.

With my first pregnancy, we traveled from Boston to Chicago when I was about 12 weeks pregnant, to Los Angeles and San Diego when I was about 20 weeks pregnant and finally to DC when I was about 30 weeks.  I was with Ravi on all three trips, and my health was much more predictably better.  While I might have thrown up a few times in Chicago, I had no issues with the flights, the motion, stamina, or anything, really.  Apart from not going on the vast majority of rides at Disneyland, and avoiding hot tubs, being pregnant didn’t have a huge impact on travel for me.

With this pregnancy, it has been a very different story.  When we came home to the US around my 12th week, the smells of food and coffee in an enclosed space with recycled air made me nauseous to the point of breathing through my shirt and one dash to the bathroom (where thankfully I was spared being sick).  Heading back to Singapore, I was lucky that my friend Jim was along, and he helped with the carrying of heavy things.

This week of travel has been the first time I have traveled alone while pregnant, and I have found it very challenging for a variety of reasons.

  • Having to lift heavy things is never a good idea for me (I have a bad back) but when I had to drag two suitcases all over seatac to get to my rental car and then back to check in, I ended up having a few contractions due to the strain.
  • I have had to take it far easier and do far less on a daily basis than I did the last time around.  That’s been true of the pregnancy in general, but it can be particularly frustrating when in a new city (or cities).

As with many things, your mileage may vary and will likely depend on how your pregnancy is going overall.

What I’ve learned to do on this trip is something that is very hard for me–I have had to ask for help.  Help picking up my bags.  Help in the form of understanding when I’ve cancelled plans with a friend (as I had to this evening due to illness).  I have had to admit that I am NOT superwoman.  That this pregnancy has been difficult, and that I can only waddle around a city for so long before I need to sit down.  That I might need help in the form of driving from location to location and paying for parking rather than walking a mile or jumping on public transit. Help in the form of hiring a town car with driver to meet me so he can deal with my bags and with driving me to the hotel.  Help from kind people willing to get the pregnant woman’s bag from the overhead bin.  Help from strangers who let me have a seat on the airport train.  And when I haven’t been offered help, if I need it, I’m learning that it’s okay to say “excuse me, but could you help me with/by….”

I don’t think it’s a bad idea to travel while pregnant (obviously) but I do think it’s important to listen to your body and try to avoid once in a lifetime experiences that you might feel cheated by if you can’t do everything you wanted to.

For that very reason, Seattle, Portland and San Francisco were great choices for me.  Seattle is a new city to me, but I primarily went to see my friend.  The number of “tourist” things I wanted to do was fairly low.  With Portland, I only had two things on my agenda.  I’ve been San Francisco a number of times before, so I feel no pressure to do much of anything here except see my friends and family.

But that doesn’t mean I’m not relieved to know that I’ll be seeing Ravi and Ellie in less than 12 hours.  Having the support of a spouse will be a good help, and I miss the two of them like crazy.

I’ll post again soon with some pictures and stories from my trip so far.

Seattle–The beach, BBQ, and a glassblowing shop

My internet at the hotel has been unpredictable and cranky, so I’m going to make this fast.

My first stop was Alki Beach on the Puget Sound.  I enjoyed the mild heat (81F, 28C) as I strolled by the water.  I watched people paddleboarding (is that the right term for what he’s doing?) and couldn’t get over how gorgeous the mountains looked.

I wandered up to where the lighthouse is, but unfortunately it was closed.  However, just up the road, I found a small beachlet, with some gorgeous driftwood.

I stopped to take a picture of the skyline at a conveinently marked look-out point.

There were blackberries growing at the look-0ut point, so I used a technique I learned in photography class to keep them in focus while blurring the background of the Seattle skyline to make a picture I really like.

I stopped and had some bbq before heading to a glassblowing studio near Pioneer Square.  I didn’t take a picture, but I found the cutest blown glass teddy bear for the new baby’s room and I’m shipping it home to Singapore.  Then I drove to my friend K’s home and hung out with her and her gorgeous two kids (we met in a birth community when we were pregnant with our first–her R is 2 weeks younger than Ellie).  I ended the night with some retail therapy at a local mall, including some delicious chocolate covered strawberries from Godiva.

More later, depending on how the internet holds up here!

7 Links Blog Project

18 months, 340 posts….it all comes down to 7

I’ve just been invited by Kirsten of Funny Little World to participate in ‘The 7 Links Blog Project‘. For this project, bloggers from all over the world make a list of their top posts in a range of categories, creating a sort of one-stop shop for 7 notable posts from their blog. Each blogger than extends this project by inviting 3 others to participate.

MY MOST BEAUTIFUL POST

Now you are 2

This is the letter I wrote to Elanor on her second birthday. While I don’t use Expat Bostonians as a parenting blog per se, I am a mom.  Watching her grow up and come into her own as a person has been one of the most fascinating (which is not to say not also frustrating at times) experiences I’ve had.

When I read back through my previous entries, this is the post that made me stop and smile at the memory.  Maybe it’s being pregnant again, but when I think about the posts that I would most like my girls to read when they’re older, this is probably one of the first I think of, even though it’s not so much about being an expat or the move.  It’s just about life.

MY MOST POPULAR POST

Voyage de la Vie at Resorts World Sentosa (show review)

I have to admit I’m kind of baffled by the unrelenting popularity of this post..it’s actually the third result in a google search for “voyage de la vie review” and the 9th link when you google “voyage de la vie” (and is the first blog link listed).  I’m not a professional reviewer…I’m just someone who has seen a LOT of theater in her day and who loves theater, and thus is fairly opinionated about theater.

This could also fall under “most suprisingly successful post” because in the year since I’ve written it, there hasn’t been a week when it wasn’t a top search term or top viewed post and quite honestly, I find that baffling!  Further, while it has the most page views, there are NO comments!

MY MOST CONTROVERSIAL POST

Skin Whitening, it’s a thing here

When I wrote this post, I thought I was just writing a “this is a local thing I find strange” post.  The post generated the most comments in the history of my blog (only 24, but that’s a lot for me), and started a fascinating discussion about race, gender,and beauty ideals.  I’ve been meaning to do a longer, more thoughtful and purposeful post on those topics for a while now, and rediscovering this post and remembering the discussion it  inspired has re-motivated me.

MY MOST HELPFUL POST

Seth Rogen talks about Singapore on Conan and SG isn’t happy

Usually I am baffled by Singapore (although less and less with the passage of time) or find myself at a loss to explain “Americans” or “Western” stuff. (I really can’t explain the election of W…sorry…I’m still mystified by it as well) to Singaporeans.

This was one brief shining moment where I actually understood both sides of a US/Singapore disconnect and felt confident in explaining it to both sides.  Long story short was that Seth Rogen appeared on a talk show (Conan O’Brien) and from the American perspective cracked a few funny jokes about Singapore–from Singapore, he BASHED their home country and was incredibly dismissive and rude.

I had considered some of my expat to expat advice for this column, but I think that this was actually more helpful and helpful on a broader scale.

MY MOST SURPRISINGLY SUCCESSFUL POST

Bad Expat, Ur Doin it Rong

My friend Maria wrote a great blog post about how to “Become an Ugly Expat in 12 easy steps” which really resonated with me.  In part because it’s a great post, and in part because it tugged at a few insecurities of mine…namely that I might kind of suck at this whole “expat thing” after dreaming of living abroad my whole life.

As with the skin whitening post, when I wrote it, I was mostly just trying to unpack my feelings and my fears.  But the ensuing conversation (which was fantastic, and the only other post besides the skin whitening one to inspire 20+ comments) really inspired me to redefine what I think makes a “good” expat and how it’s actually okay that I take my time to adjust.

It was also around this time that I really began to feel like I was part of an expat blogging community instead of just a fringe lurker.  That I might actually have something valuable to say about this experience, rather than just making a blog of random adventures around Singapore.  I began to feel more confident in my voice and I’m really proud of how this post became such a turning point for me, at least mentally/emotionally.

MY MOST UNDERRATED POST

Thailand Part 2

Maybe it’s the crappy title I gave the post, but I really feel like this was a great, and thoughtful post that has been totally overlooked.  Granted it is a long post and it is picture and video heavy.

However…

This post describe a day long adventure with Siam Safari in Phuket Thailand.  In doing so, I talk about the questionable ethics of elephant trekking and “eco-tourism” in general.  I worry about treating people’s lives (the Karen people who work at Siam Safari specifically…and this was before Kirsten educated me far more thoroughly on their lives) as a tourist attraction.

Phuket is a common vacation destination from Singapore, and elephant trekking is one of their biggest tourist draws, so this is probably the post that I wish I could ask people to go back and really read and comment upon.  If I were writing it today, I would probably have given it a better title and tried to make it a little less dense in terms of pictures and video (or done two posts, with one specifically talking about my mixed emotions on the subject).  But if you’re a new reader-I highly recommend going back and reading (and commenting) on this post.

POST I AM MOST PROUD OF

Maids, Cultural Expectations and the importance of modeling-expat to expat advice

Having a helper (or a maid, if you prefer) has been one of the most surreal experiences I’ve had.  Being an expat is loaded with opportunities for miscommunication, cultural misunderstanding and frustration.  Having a person with different cultural baggage, who is an employee in your home only multiplies and magnifies those opportunities.

The trickiest part of navigating all of this is when one or both people see something as “obvious”.  This post was born of a misunderstanding created when I thought it was “obvious” how to make a pbj (peanut butter and jelly) sandwich, when it wasn’t to B.

I’m most proud of this post because I allowed myself to be honest, to detail where *I* had screwed up.  I’m honest about how these moments of conflict are uncomfortable and challenging to navigate, particularly for the Western Expat who has never had this sort of experience before.  It’s the post I wish I had read 18 months ago before I hired a maid–and still occasionally need to read and be reminded of to help prevent frustration on both sides of the employer/helper relationship.

You never want to let frustration over these small things outweigh the biggest positive–there is someone else in your home who loves and respects your child and wants only the best for them.  Another person who loves your child and only wants the best for them is only ever a good thing.

SUMMARY

So there you have it, the best of the best….or so I think.  I hope new readers will go back and enjoy some older posts.  I read and respond to every comment left (minus the spam) and would love to see you engage with some of these older entries.

I’m asking the following bloggers to come play 7 links!

Traveling without kids

I’m a little too tired to be fully cogent, so I’ll just share a few things in sections…

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Apart from a two night trip when E was one and the four days (?) we did in Hong Kong, this past February, I haven’t flown sans Elanor in almost 3 years.  I can honestly say I’d forgotten what it was like.

Today (I guess technically yesterday if I’m on Singapore time) I got into a cab at 4am by myself after kissing the toddler and my husband goodbye (E was asleep, but apparently I ruined that as she came to our bed not a half hour later).  I checked into the airport by myself.  I got the shock of a lifetime when both my segments upgraded at check-in (I had requested a business class upgrade, but I almost never get them) by myself.  I cleared immigration, went to the lounge and then cleared security at the gate all on my own.

I don’t think traveling with kids is a nightmare.  It becomes routine after a while.  No it’s not fast, and it involves a lot of moving parts, but it’s totally doable.

What I didn’t realize, though, was HOW MUCH FASTER things move without kids.  Security?  Pop my laptop and liquid meds out… step through the metal detector, put them back in and go.  Deplaning? I don’t have to be the last person off.  Walking?  No toddler glacial pace.  Making a connection?  I had time to stop into the lounge in Tokyo and have a glass of water and a banana.

I have to admit the luxury of not needing to keep an ear/eye on my child was also heavenly.  I slept the majority of the flight to Tokyo and for about a third of the flight to Seattle.  When

I did watch a movie, I could just watch the movie.  I didn’t have to feed someone else before myself.  I only had to go to the bathroom when I wanted/needed to.

Don’t get me wrong…I miss my husband and my daughter.  I’ve already bought a guilt gift for E (shh, don’t tell her!), and have talked/skyped and chatted with Ravi already.

BUT…

Wow, this traveling without kids thing is AWESOME.

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One small hiccup.  As I was clearing immigration, I had to produce my dependent pass.  No problem…and I pulled out not just mine, but Elanor’s as well.  Which Ravi will need next Tuesday when HE flies.  Whoops.  Luckily the nice people at the United Lounge at Changi helped a forgetful mom out with an envelope and a promise to get it into the mail.

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When I got to Seattle, there was a huge headache which involved my 28 week pregnant ass hauling around my two large suitcases, a backpack and a tote because you couldn’t take luggage carts over to the car rental side of things.  In Singapore and Japan, there are carts for free everywhere on both sides of security.

SINGAPORE 1, USA 0

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I got to drive a car, go to Target, eat Panda Express (mmmm orange chicken—I once deserted Ravi on a bus in Chicago when I was pregnant with E because it went past a Panda Express and I had a sudden urge for orange chicken), shop at Barnes & Noble (bookstore) and see a friend I haven’t seen in years.

SINGAPORE 1, USA 1

Long blisteringly hot shower for as long as I wanted to stay in the shower.

SINGAPORE 1, USA 2

 

Borders Wheelock IS closing

In a surprising turn of events, Borders has announced that its flagship store at Wheelock Place will be closing soon.

It has until Aug 23 to remove its stock from the premises and vacate it. However, its Parkway branch will remain open.

The closure comes after an administrative discrepancy in the cheque issued to Wheelock Properties, Border’s landlord, led the latter to take over the premises.

RELATED STORIES» Business as usual for Borders here» Borders S’pore not closing down any time soo

“Although a cashier’s order was then subsequently drawn, the Landlord, having reentered the premises, was unwilling to reverse the actions it had already taken.

“The Company is therefore unable to reopen its store in Wheelock Place which it has occupied for the last 13 years,” Borders said in a statement.

The company also denied that it had been two months behind in paying rental.

“Rental for the month of August had not been paid in part due to an administrative discrepancy in the cheque issued to the landlord,” the statement continued.

This brings its tenancy of 13 years at the Orchard Road shopping mall to an end.

A spokesman said its remaining stock will be offered for sale once an appropriate location has been found.

Source here

 

Final Update—Borders Singapore is gone.

Are Expats Fickle Friends?

One of the blogs I’ve recently found and become a big fan of is “Mummy in Provence.” (Side note–she does a series called The Global Difference in Baby Making, featuring guest posts from expats around the world…FASCINATING reading if you’re at all interested in the topic).  This past Sunday, she did a “stream of consciousness” post questioning whether expats are fickle friends or not.  It’s been several days since I read (and commented) on the post, but it’s stayed on my mind.

Are expats fickle friends?

My gut reaction was that to some extent, yes we are.  We disappear for travel, sometimes for a month or more at a time.  We know that our friends could leave at the drop of a hat.  The basis for friendship is, I think, far more liberal away from home than it might be in our home country. And, at the end of the day, my longest friendship in Singapore is about 18 months old, whereas most of my friendships in Boston are between 6/7 and 15 years old (and go back before marriage, kids, etc).

With social media, haven’t made as much effort to have a large social circle, the way I might have 10 or 15 years ago.  I’m pretty on top of many of my friend’s lives, thanks to facebook, twitter and skype.  Thanks to that and this blog, they’re keeping up with me.  When I was in France in 2000, few if any friends had home access to email, and I made far more effort to get out and make local friends than I necessarily have here.

But…

Then again, I don’t know that that was entirely fair.  Thanks to expat life and expat contacts, I’ve made friends that span several continents.  Today I had a friend generously let me place an order in her home country that she’s willing to take the time to ship on to me from her house to save me money (compared with direct international shipping).  I wouldn’t say that’s superficial…that’s an unecessary and very sweet gesture.

The other thing I wasn’t thinking about is that expat friends are the only people who can really relate to the expat experience.  Unless you’ve actually lived abroad and gone through the culture shock of being an expat, the frustrations, the excitement, the adaptation…all of that, it’s difficult to fully relate.  Our expat friends serve a vital purpose.

What do you think?  Are expats fickle friends?  How are your expat friendships different from your home ones?  How has the changing social media platforms affected how you make friends as an expat/maintain them (if at all)?

Borders Singapore is NOT closed

EDITED TO ADD–AGAIN– UPDATES AT BOTTOM…

Thanks to AsiaOne, yesterday’s puzzling closure of Borders has been explained.

Rumours of Borders Singapore shutting its doors for good resurfaced again yesterday after fans of the bookstore chain were puzzled to find its Wheelock outlet closed.

A sign placed at the front of the store read: “The store is closed.”

But regular customers of the bookstore here, owned by Australia-based Redgroup Retail, can rest easy: Both its Wheelock and Parkway stores are not closing down any time soon.

When my paper contacted Borders’ Parkway outlet yesterday, a staff member there said that the Wheelock store was closed for only a day.

“There was a technical glitch; the shutters couldn’t be opened,” she explained. It will open for business at 9am today, she added.

The staff member also said that the Parkway outlet was “doing fine” and had no plans to close, not even for renovation.

Last month, Borders Group in the United States announced that it would close all 399 stores there, laying off 10,700 employees.

Borders Singapore then said that it has no affiliation with Borders US and was unaffected by the closures.

UPDATE–Some new information about the Wheelock Place Borders and why it was closed  (source here)

SINGAPORE : Borders said a dispute with its landlord, Wheelock Properties, has caused its bookstore at Wheelock Place to be closed since Tuesday.

Borders said it was “extremely disappointed” with its landlord of 13 years, but did not elaborate.

It also reassured the public that the store’s closure is not linked in any way to the shutdown of over 200 Borders stores in Australia and the US when its parent company filed for bankruptcy protection.

“We would emphasise that The Borders Singapore business is independent of these businesses and faces its own set of challenges and opportunities,” it said in a company statement.

“Borders Singapore continues to trade as usual from its Parkway Parade store, where we have a strong professional relationship with the landlord.”

Borders added that it will notify the public of any changes through notices on its website.

Wheelock Properties declined comment when contacted by MediaCorp and said the matter is being handled by its lawyers.

- CNA/ms

NEWEST UPDATE–They’re closing the Wheelock Store due to an issue with the landlord.  source

FINAL UPDATE—BORDERS SINGAPORE IS OUT OF BUSINESS

Borders Singapore seems to have closed!

FINAL UPDATE–RIP BORDERS SINGAPORE

 

****Final Update***Due to the tenancy discrepancy/argument with the Landlord, Borders at Wheelock Place will close Aug 23– (ONLY–the other location will remain open).  Source

***NEW UPDATE***  According to a more recent Asia One Report here, the rumor that Borders and Wheelock Place are having a rental/financial dispute of some kind seem to be true.

***Update*** According to this AsiaOne News Report, yesterday’s Border’s closure was a technical glitch.

My friend Kirsten posted earlier today on Facebook that she’d heard a rumor that Borders Singapore had closed.

Edited to add–This is relevant/surprising because Borders Singapore is NOT owned by the US Borders company and was not affected by the US Borders Chain Bankruptcy.

image borrowed from twitter here

I can report that I stopped by this evening.  The store is dark, the shelves full of stock, and at either end a sign that says “This store is closed.”

I have no idea what’s happening.  Their website still says

Borders Singapore Update – 22 February 2011
The Administrator of REDgroup Retail, Ferrier Hodgson partner Steve Sherman, has confirmed that Borders Singapore (Borders Pte Ltd) is not currently affected by the Voluntary Administration of its parent company, the Australia-based REDgroup Retail Pty Ltd.

Last week Ferrier Hodgson was appointed Voluntary Administrator of REDgroup Retail Pty Ltd, which owns and operates Angus & Robertson, Borders and Whitcoulls (NZ). Between the three brands they are the largest booksellers in Australia and New Zealand, with about 260 stores.

“The operations of Borders Singapore (Borders Pte Limited) is not impacted by the Voluntary Administration process of REDgroup Retail,” Mr Sherman said. “No formal appointment has taken place in relation to the Borders operations in Singapore. The Singapore company continues to operate under the direction of its senior management and directors.”

Please note that details about the administration will be posted on the Ferrier Hodgson website at: http://www.ferrierhodgson.com

It is unclear if this is a temporary or permanent closure, if they’re being sold, or what.

Apparently the aggressive re-branding campaign was a failure? (earlier post on borders re-branding here)

I’m stunned, honestly.

Also edited to add-further rumor is that Borders employees showed up at work yesterday to find themselves locked out by the building.  I haven’t heard anything about the second Singapore location…I can only verify that the Wheelock Place Borders seems to be closed.

Validation

I’ve always been a storyteller.

My mom says I began telling stories when I wasn’t much older than E.  At that point it was “Tom and Jerry saw a something and they ran away!”  From there, I graduated to written stories in early elementary school, complete with sloppy printing, poor spelling and other people’s plots.

One of my favorite moments in elementary school was when we did the “book-making project.”

One day the princess said, “I think I have found the place that all the Unicorns are hidden.”  But she was very very wrong.  She looked everywhere but never found them because they were on Disappearing Island.  Note that “Disappearing Island” in the illustration is written as “Disaperig island” with a handy arrow to tell the reader where it was. –Excerpt from “The Last Unicorn” by Crystal, March 1987 (age 8).

“The bee queen was very upset.  She cried ever since the bears found their honey tree.  My children are dying. They’ve nothing to eat for weeks.  I’m going to go sting those bears good and proper and so will all the bumblebees, hornets, honeybees and yellow jackets.”  Not pictured, the climactic ending–”We will teach them a lesson.  As soon as Captain Stinger is ready, we’ll take care of those bears.  And they did just that!”  –Bee Queen, by Crystal, age 8.

Obviously, there was a lot of room to grow.

In middle school, I began a pen pal correspondence with a girl about my age on the West Coast after finding her ad in a ‘zine published about my favorite fantasy series at the time (Valdemar by Mercedes Lackey).  (For my younger readers, a ‘zine was a short, dedicated magazine dedicated to a specific topic, like Mercedes Lackey, usually photocopied and mailed to your house–sort of a physical fan website in this instance).  We carried on a several year correspondence entirely written as characters in Lackey’s world, complete with her signature talking horses (Companions).  I don’t have any of the letters, but I do have several chapters of our joint masterpiece about our characters (we took turn writing chapters).  My character was named “Lyria.”

In high school I still wrote the occasional fiction piece, mostly taking my writing style from my new fiction addiction, Christopher Pike’s YA horror novels.  Such pieces include a short story called “The curse of the teddy bear necklace” (guess what it was about).

Around that time, I began to write for the school paper.  I had a few articles reprinted in a local paper (which I’m pretty sure I still have saved in a photo album somewhere in the US–I remember that one was an article about a Holocaust survivor speaking to us about the “Night of Falling Glass”) which at the time seemed like the epitome of success.

But it was my introduction to personal essays that really helped me start to develop my voice and personal style.  If blogging had been around in those years (or, more to the point, if I’d had access to the internet) I probably would have started blogging then.

In college, I had a very writing intensive major and minors (History, Literature, and French specifically) and I stopped writing fiction.  I occasionally journaled, but the vast majority of my writing was academic.  This culminated in a senior honors thesis in 2001.  I spent a semester of my senior year researching my thesis and a semester writing it.  At the time, it was the longest piece I’d ever written, and it was my ticket (along with grades, references and a solid GRE score) to a MA/PhD program in Women’s History at NYU (which I dropped out of after a semester, realizing that a History PhD was not actually my dream, after all).

Table of Contents: Introduction, Chapter 1: Changing Women, Changing Times, Chapter 2: Women’s Colleges: Radically New, Chapter 3: First Comes College, Then Comes Marriage, Chapter 4: Cars, Copulating, and Chaperonage: The Three C’s of Dating, Chapter 5: Dress for Success, Conclusion, Appendix A: A Detailed Listing of Curfews, Appendix B: College Pictures, Appendix C: College Songs, Bibliography– “Contradictions of Space and time: 5 Women’s Colleges 1920-1950″-Senior Honors Thesis, 2001. (72 pages, and the longest thing I’d written to date at the time).

Ironically, it was the strain of writing (and editing and revising and re-revising ad nauseum) this thesis that got me to write fiction again.  My boyfriend at the time, Eric, introduced me to a website that published pretty much anything submitted to it.  As a break from the non-fiction original research, I wrote a short story and posted it.  That people read it and gave me feedback was a novel and addictive experience (in the case of positive feedback, at least)–it was the first time anyone other than me and a few select people had ever read anything of mine.

I began to write fiction again, and in my eight months in New York I wrote more than 50 pieces…some relatively decent, others very cringe-worthy. One that I meant to be nothing but an entry in a Halloween contest on the site, but which has always haunted me (pardon the pun) and eventually turned into my current novel in progress.

In 2003, I discovered blogging, and over the past 8 years, I’ve written on several blogging platforms–Livejournal, Typepad, and now WordPress.  I’ve written banal everyday blogs, blogs about teaching, about my relationships, about parenting and of course now about life as an Expatriate.

In 2006, I had back surgery and was out of work for several months after the surgery.  Mostly out of boredom, I decided to try the NaNoWriMo challenge…to write a 50k word novel between November 1 and November 30.  I actually succeeded, and came out with a 100+ page story.  Once I returned to work, though, my writing focus returned to curriculum and blogging.

The blog I was writing in 2006 and 2007, ironically, gave me the contacts that led to my first professional writing gig and my current professional goals.  After I had Elanor, a friend who was serving as an editor for a website asked me to write about sexuality post baby.  The article turned into a regular column.  I wrote that column for over a year until the website unfortunately went out of business in October of 2010.  The website was sold, but the new publisher has apparently decided not to revive it (it’s been almost a year with no news).  My prior experience in sex education, my new passion about parenting, and my desire to help families has evolved into the seeds of a career as a sexuality educator and therapist specializing in pregnancy and post natal sexuality.

About a year ago, I began writing fiction again.  Unlike before, though, I wanted to write more professional stories (as opposed to first drafts I just wrote and posted online).  Stories that might just get published (after I’d amassed the appropriate number of rejection letters, of course). I also began the journey of turning that Halloween story I referenced earlier into a novel when I had some extra time.

Last fall I screwed up my courage and sent in my first story for submission, fully expecting to get rejected.

Last night I got an email letting me know that my story had been accepted for publication in an anthology coming out in February 2012, complete with contract.

I’ve always been a storyteller.

But now I feel like an author.

Things I’m looking forward to in the US/Things I’ll miss about Singapore

As my departure date nears, I’ve been thinking about what I’m looking forward to, and what I’ll miss about Singapore.

What I’m looking forward to

  • Long hot showers without running out of water 15-20 minutes into the shower.
  • American Grocery Stores (and the foods I can’t get here/can’t bring back; like ice cream)
  • American food (Panda Express, Friendly’s, Bourbon Chicken, GOOD KFC, baked apple pies as opposed to fried at McDonalds, etc)
  • Seeing my friends, and hopefully attending 2 baby showers
  • Seeing my mom, aunt and in-laws
  • Shopping at stores that actually fit my body size, and where my size 7.5 shoe isn’t ginormous
  • Buying baby clothes from my favorite stores (regular and consignment)
  • Visiting Seattle for the first time, San Francisco for the third–both cities involve seeing friends I haven’t seen in something like 2 years
  • Driving a car (Bonus–Driving a car with loud music blasting)
  • Seeing movies that either (a) won’t come out here for months (b) won’t come out here at all or (c) will come out here censored
  • Ellie having some doctor’s appointments that will spring her from several specialists (the pedi stroke team chief among them)
  • Target…let us all worship at the awesomeness of Target

But, much as I’m excited, I *do* have stuff I’ll miss about home

  • Our helper (let’s face it, on call babysitting ROCKS)
  • Our apartment (it’s home…no bed feels as comfy as our bed)
  • The kittens
  • Ellie will miss chicken rice and maggi noodles
  • Ellie will also miss going to school and gymnastics
  • Palm Trees
  • Efficient and awesome public transportation
  • Texting for a cab (when we’re in the city, proper)
  • The water play areas
  • Kinokuniya (althTough I hear they have on in Seattle)
  • Gold Class movie theaters
  • The Zoo and the Night Safari
  • Botanic Gardens (the public garden and the common are pretty, but they’ve got nothing on the Botanic Garden)
  • How clean it is
  • My friends here

 

The strange thing about being an expat is that there’s always SOMETHING you miss more about wherever you aren’t in the moment.  I’m sure that by mid-September, while I’ll be watching the leaves turn (hopefully) and feel the pull of fall….I’ll be more than ready to head home to my year-round shorts and flip flops.

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