Webinar on Travel, Timezones and Infant/Toddler Sleep

Although I haven’t lived in the US for almost three years, I still consider myself an Isis Parenting Mom.  Ravi and I took prenatal classes with them, Ellie took parent & child classes there with both Ravi and I (although mostly with me), and they are always an important stop on our trips back to Boston.  Even though I was 10,000 miles away, Nancy from Isis (IBLC and baby guru extraordinaire) still checked in on me when I gave birth to Rhiannon and has given me support and help over the past year (new moms-do yourself a favor and follow her on twitter or watch her free breastfeeding webinars) .

I am happy to help boost the signal about an upcoming free webinar done by Nancy and Isis Parenting on dealing with Travel, Timezones and Infant/Toddler Sleep.  It is being held on Monday, October 22, 2012 at 8pm (which is Tuesday October 23 at 8am in Singapore), but if you can’t watch it live, you can still sign up and submit your questions in advance, and watch it at a later time.  Go here to sign up!

 

Meeting Description:

Can’t attend live? That’s OK!
Register and you’ll receive a link to view the recorded webinar later at your convenience.

Travel, Time Zones & Infant / Toddler Sleep
Planning a trip away from home? Whether you’re visiting family a few hours’ car-ride away, or flying clear across the country, this webinar will offer practical and proven sleep suggestions to help your infant or toddler make a smoother adjustment.

Learn to determine optimal timing for flights and car travel, what gear to bring for better sleep while away, when and how to remain flexible about naps and bedtime while avoiding exhaustion-fueled meltdowns.

We’ll review sleep pattern development and circadian rhythms and how environmental changes like light and sound can reinforce or interfere with sleep patterns. We’ll also discuss the biology behind jet-lag and how to manage both small and large time zone shifts with infants and toddlers so you can enjoy your time when away, and get back on track when you return home.

Presented by Sleep Scientist and Isis Parenting Sleep Team Leader Erin Flynn-Evans, PhD ALM, RPSGT
Erin’s popular Science of Infant Toddler Sleep webinar has garnered over 4000 viewers.
Don’t miss this continuation of our Infant Toddler Sleep Support webinar series.

Participant Questions and Answers are welcome as time permits. Please submit questions in advance using the registration form. All registrants will receive a link to the recording after the event.

***Just for the record–I did not receive any compensation for this post.  Views expressed in the webinar are those of the webinar hosts.***

**side note-That’s Rhiannon in the picture with Nancy***

Singapore’s Rotation Curation project

I’ve been meaning to write a post encouraging everyone to follow @hellofrmSG, the official Singapore Rotation Curation Project Twitter Account.

 

The concept originated December 10, 2011, when Svenska Institutet and VisitSweden launched Curators of Sweden.[1] The project hands the official Twitter account @Sweden to a new Swedish person every week to manage, with the expressed goal to manifest Swedish diversity and progressiveness through their own personality.

The original idea has been reported on in mass media around the world[2][3][4][5][6] and inspired the launch of many similar projects. The Twitter account @PeopleofLeeds started January 15, 2012, where citizens of Leeds represent their hometown. January 18, 2012, @WeAreAustralia and @TweetWeekUSA, followed by @CuratorsMexico and @BasquesAbroad January 21. All of these are unofficial accounts without governmental influence or sanctions, as well as the actual foundation for the concept of Rotation Curation, which is to let official and unofficial projects, countries, cities, companies, cultural, and, or other types of groups to rotate their spokespersons, curators, every week.  source

 

@hellofrmSG started the first week of July, and has had several curators.  In the first week we learned about the history of various streets and locations around Singapore.  In the second week, we learned about various types of wildlife around Singapore.  The third week was led by a philosophy student.  During the fourth week, we were hearing from Zack (@POZboySG), a young HIV+ Singaporean.  He was tweeting about the realities of life with HIV when the account was suspended.

Currently @hellofrmSG is still suspended.  The organizers have reason to believe that it was suspended not by the government, but by a reader who objected to Zack’s content.  It was also suspended only days after @WeAreAustralia was also suspended.

The Rotation Curation Project’s official blog has put out the following statement

On June 3, 2012, however, with no warning and no explanation, Twitter suspended the @IAm_Pakistan account. On June 11, after vociferous protest from #RotationCuration followers, the @IAm_Pakistan account was restored.

Now, however, as of July 24, both @WeAreAustralia and @hellofrmSG (Singapore) have similarly been suspended, with no explanation whatsoever from Twitter.

According to the Electronic Frontier Foundation, January 27, 2012, in What Does Twitter’s Country-by-Country Takedown System Mean for Freedom of Expression?, Twitter will only suppress content for IP addresses within a specific country when asked to do so by the specific country and only for legal reasons local to that country. Beyond this, “Twitter is taking two additional steps to ensure that users know that the censorship has happened. First, they are giving users notice when they seek that content. Second, they are sending the notices they receive to the Chilling Effects Project, which publishes the orders, creating an archive.”

But in the case of @WeAreAustralia and @hellofrmSG (as with @IAm_Pakistan) there has been no notice and there has been nothing posted to the Chilling Effects Project database.

Within the same entry, they have organized a petition that you can and should sign, which will be presented to twitter in person on August 1rst, asking for the reinstatement of @WeAreAustralia and @hellofrmSG.

I am friends with one of the organizers of @hellofrmSG and will be one of the weekly curators later this year.  I think the rotation curation project is a fascinating way to learn more about people who live in the same country as I, and other countries as well.  I follow a number of them.  I’m also following the NYC rotation curation project, because as I was recently saying to a friend, we all have our own little slice of NYC, and I’m always interested in learning about someone else’s. I really want to see @hellofrmSG reinstated.  Let’s get as many signatures as possible.

Just Leap

As promised, here is the poem my friend Stephanie wrote for our wedding.  I feel so blessed to have such a talented poet (and caring heart) numbered amongst our friends.

Just Leap

Blessed are they that bravely greet days

with a hopeful heart & smile,

learning along one’s particular path

until someone joins us for a while.

To live can be a glorious adventure,

but together, ah! There’s the real prize!

You claim it with each kissy-face proudly displayed;

drink it deeply from each other’s eyes.

 

Blessed are they who are bold in life,

who question the status-quo

or by way of frequent flyer miles

venture far beyond what they know.

Embracing the world by tech or text,

they rise to the challenges ahead.

They go through a blizzard

to meet a friend

and find a treasure instead.

 

And blessed are we, friends and family

to witness this moment in time

to see these two brave and bold ones united

and pledge to share in love’s eternal rhyme.

Crystal & Ravi, may you continue to remind us all

what joy is found when we tempt our fates!

And if your way grows steep,

Breathe deep and just leap!

Your greatest journey awaits!

©2006, by Stephanie Rogers

Odds and Ends

I haven’t done one of these in a while, so I thought I’d do an odds and ends post to wrap up/update on some stuff and comment about other small things that don’t merit individual posts.

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Rhiannon’s Surgery

The wound has healed nicely and we get test results next week.  I’m feeling a lot better about this post-surgery recovery than her first surgery recovery (which involved an infection).

In the mean time, Rhiannon (who turns 7 months on Sunday) has been reveling in her new-found love of solid food.  Witness below (the food was a mix of banana, apple, blueberry and one other berry).

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The Car

We did decide to sign a one year lease on the car after test driving it for a few months.  It might technically be a hundred dollars a month more than I’d been paying with cabs (after parking and gas are figured into the cost), but the freedom is worth it.  Never stressing about how weather (rain) will affect my commute, shift change, or standing with two young children while the cab I texted for drives past me is worth it.

I will caution you that after a trial month or two, the idea of going back to cabs sounds pretty dreary.

There weren’t really any new terms added to the lease–the one difference being that the penalities for accidents if someone else were driving the car were spelled out in a way they weren’t when we were just trying it out.  However, I don’t lend out my car, so that’s not an issue.

And yes, I still occasionally turn on my wipers instead of my directional.

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When I was six posts

First Bookjunkie posted an article on White as Milk about her life in Primary one (first grade)

Then I wrote an article about my childhood

Then Katrjin did…her memories of expat third culture kid-dom here in Singapore (part 1 is here, part 2 is now up!)

Then Kirsten wrote about her life as a kid here in Singapore on SEA Youth’s website.

Please–let’s get some more!!!  ClaireLauraKelly?  Pleeeeeeeeease?  Anyone–write it, link it.  No matter how “normal” you think it was, I promise someone here will find it fascinating.

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If you’re into theater, and you want to indoctrinate the kids, you should know Annie is coming to MBS from July 10 through August 5.  More info and tickets here.  Yes, I will probably go (if I’m in town) but I think E just might be too young to sit through it, much to my sadness.  Thanks to Kelly who gave me the heads up.

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Ellie is still taking violin, and managed to add ballet to it.  It all began with my stupidly allowing her to take a trial class and ended up with The Nutcracker on repeat in my car.

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Remember how I had a story published in a book?  Well, if you like your books, electronic, Irresistible: Erotic Romance for Couples is now available on Kindle and Nook.  Given the recent popularity of 50 Shades of Grey, and erotica…I thought it was worth mentioning.

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We re-signed our lease for a year.  In the end, looking for a new apartment wasn’t the right choice this year.  Ravi’s work is above a stop on the (not yet open) downtown line–it makes more sense to stay put until that stop opens and then to figure out where would be a better location.  For now, walking distance to Great World City and about midway between E’s school and R’s work is the right decision.  Plus, moving sucks.

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The cats are fine.  Gandalf weighs more than my almost 7 month old.  Kero has finally stopped (fingers crossed) trying to climb the curtains.  Both have mostly forgiven us for going on vacation (they had a pet sitter, but we were on their list for a few hours or so).

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Our next trip to the US will likely be late summer.  Kate, one of my dearest friends is getting married, and I will absolutely be there.  And then we’ll stick around for a few weeks on either end.  The rest of our travel plans for the year will be dictated by one of Ravi’s cousin’s weddings late this year, and then how many vacation days/how many miles we need to fly to keep our frequent flier status for next year.

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If you want to see all of our Australia pictures, I’ve put an album on the Expat Bostonians facebook page (it includes far more than what I’ve shared here).  Go, “like,” and enjoy.

Like this one!

Guest Post at Mummy in Provence

Today I can also be found as a guest poster over at Mummy in Provence.

Ameena does this really wonderful series on the Global Differences of having a baby abroad.  Written by expats around the world, you can read about having a baby in France, the UK, Japan, the Middle East…even Singapore.  I love this series and I’m so happy to be part of it.

Having a baby abroad: Global Differences Series; Singapore

Note–also posted today is an entry about our experiences at the Toys for Tots event this past Saturday.

Guest POV-Jim’s observations on Singapore

My friend Jim recently visited Singapore for the first time.  Here is the note he wrote up for facebook detailing his experiences.

One of the fun parts of traveling is experiencing cultures that are different from your own, and Singapore was no exception.  In no particular order, here are some of the things I noticed while I was there.

 

  • In the week I was there, I think I only heard emergency vehicle sirens twice.  In Boston, I hear them nearly every day.
  • According to my friends, car ownership is incredibly expensive over there.  Unlike here, where you haggle to pay less than the sticker price, you routinely pay more than sticker price there.  I’m told a Honda Accord can cost around $80,000 USD, which is 3-4 times more expensive than here.  Therefore, cars are really only for the rich (although there are still plenty on the roads).
  • Perhaps because of that, taxis are ubiquitous and cheap.  There are taxi queues almost everywhere, and taxis are way cheaper than in Boston.  To get from my friends’ apartment to the airport cost me $31 SGD, or around $25 USD.  For a journey of about the same distance from my house to Logan Airport, I pay $40-50 USD.  And for $2-3 SGD extra ($1.50-$2.25 USD), you can text for a cab and get a reply telling you when the cab will arrive and what the license plate number is.
  • The restaurant across from my friends’ apartment was jam-packed at 3:30 AM on Saturday night when I was leaving for the airport to fly back home.  Does anyone know what time the bars close in Singapore?  Was that the post-last call crowd?
  • I’m told that Singapore is a rather patriarchal society.  My friend Crystal and her friends Emily and Mishelle all said that they often don’t get results when talking to people in authority, whereas their husbands do.  I can only imagine how frustrating that must be.
  • Like other Asian countries, shoes aren’t worn in homes.  Also, giving and receiving things (e.g. change) is usually done with two hands, not one.
  • At the hawker centres (i.e. food courts), you don’t bus your own tray: you just leave it on the table when you’re done.  I did go to one hawker centre which asked you to bus your own tray, but I’m told this is quite rare.  (For locals, it was the Zion Road Hawker Centre near Great World City).
  • At sit-down restaurants, you get a wet-wipe in addition to (or sometimes instead of) a napkin.
  • Except for malls and the airport, I saw very few recycling bins around.  I don’t recall seeing any on the street like we have in Cambridge.
  • Western food is readily available, but it’s considerably more expensive than local food, and you’ll pay a markup over what you’d pay in the US.  For example, a small iced coffee from Coffee Bean (a Western coffee shop) cost me $4.20 SGD, or around $3.40 USD.  A small iced coffee at the Dunkin Donuts by my house costs only $2.10 USD.  However, I could have gotten an iced kopi (Singaporean-style coffee) for $1.70 SGD ($1.40 USD).  A muffin at Coffee Bean was $3.60 SGD, but at a local coffee shop, I got toast, coffee, and eggs for $3.70 SGD.
  • The four official languages of Singapore are English, Mandarin Chinese, Malay, and Tamil, but English is the most dominant, with Mandarin close behind.  Malay is a distant third, and Tamil gets shafted a lot.  Outside of Little India, I only saw Tamil in the subway and on certain warning signs.  Otherwise, I didn’t see it, and I saw a number of signs where Japanese was the fourth language instead of Tamil, presumably for the benefit of tourists.
  • At the airport, security screening is done at the gate, not before.  Also, you hand in your boarding pass when you enter the gate area, not when you board the plane.
  • Despite being a former British colony, I noticed a number of Americanisms in the English spoken there.  I saw references to “cash machines” and “ATMs”, not “cashpoints”, and I saw signs for “stroller parking” instead of “pram parking”.  There are still plenty of Britishisms, though (e.g. “alight here”, “mind the gap”, “way out”, “plasters”, etc.).
  • The toilets were frequently labeled “Gents” and “Ladies”, not “Men” and “Women”.  I don’t remember it being like that in the UK, but it’s been a while, so I may be misremembering.
  • I suppose it shouldn’t have surprised me to see a Buddhist monk doing his grocery shopping, but it did.
  • Tipping doesn’t really exist in Singapore.  You sometimes tell taxi drivers to keep the change, but even that’s not common nor required.
  • Condiment-wise, chili sauce dominates.  Ketchup is close behind.
  • At restaurants, you have to ask for the bill: they won’t bring it to you automatically.  It seems there are some restaurants where you give the money to the server and some where you bring it up to the counter, but I’m not sure how you tell which is which.
  • Following the rules is apparently a fundamental part of Singaporean society.  Crystal tells me that non-Western restaurants will almost never do substitutions.  Contrast this with American restaurants, which let you substitute nearly anything (and frequently say so explicitly on their menus).  Also, store employees won’t go outside the box to solve problems, where American employees will usually go to their manager to try and find solutions to customer problems.
  • Perhaps not surprisingly, I saw almost no Black people while I was in Singapore.  Does anyone know how many Black expats there are on the island?
  • Government social control is very heavy-handed by American standards.  For example, Singapore now has casinos (gambling was illegal until recently), but locals have to pay $100 SGD to enter, which is used to fund anti-gambling addiction campaigns.  Foreigners get in for free.  Clearly, the government wants to discourage locals from becoming addicted to gambling, but wants foreign money.
  • While Singapore’s constitution does grant freedom of assembly, it explicitly grants Parliament the right to restrict this “in the interest of the security of Singapore or any part thereof, friendly relations with other countries, public order or morality”.  By comparison, the First Amendment of the U.S. Constitution explicitly states that Congress cannot make any law prohibiting “the right of the people peaceably to assemble”.  This is a huge and fundamental difference between our two countries, and as an American raised to believe in the Constitution, it seems quite shocking that such restrictions could be allowed.  As I commented on Crystal’s blog once, Singapore fundamentally values the good of the societal group over individual rights, whereas the US fundamentally values individual expression over the group.  I’m not sure if these two positions can be reconciled, as they’re diametrically opposed in many ways.
  • Unlike Vegas, Singapore casinos have dress codes.  I didn’t go into the casino at Sentosa because I was wearing shorts, which aren’t allowed.  This seems silly, as I was dressed for the adjacent Universal Studios theme park, but if they don’t want my money, that’s their business.
  • Obligatory gripe about the state of infrastructure investment in the US: in Singapore, they’re building several new subway lines, and construction is ongoing throughout the city.  Here in the US, these sorts of projects have declined to a trickle.  Remember when America used to lead the world instead of following it?
  • The American Embassy in Singapore looks like a giant fortress: it’s a gray, imposing building with a giant eagle seal on it.  It looks very unfriendly and unwelcoming, and can’t be helping our reputation abroad.
  • People seem to dress very fashionably in Singapore, especially the women.
  • Try as I might, I couldn’t really identify a Singaporean accent.  I heard accents that owed a lot to British English, accents that sounded very American (not just from Americans in Singapore), and accents with such a thick Chinese overtone that it was difficult to understand people.

An interesting article about “trailing spouses”

My friend Jim in the US pointed this article about being a “Trailing Spouse” to me.  Like the author, I can honestly say that the last six months haven’t necessarily been what I thought they’d be.  That there was far more isolation and loneliness than I expected.  However, I will say that Elanor has been my ticket to friendships and community far faster than I would have found them as a non-mom.  Also unlike the author, I haven’t been as eager to throw myself into local culture; I find myself craving the familiar-American TV, American Food, etc–because a day out in Singapore can still completely overwhelm me.  I want home to be a safe place full of the comfortable and the familiar.

The hardest part, which the author addresses eloquently is the dependence.

But my husband had the simple advantage of going to a job everyday, offering him benefits I didn’t share. His days had structure, he made friends at work, and he maintained his professional identity.

In my case, I was financially, socially, and emotionally reliant on him.

This dependence was surprising given that I had lived abroad before. I was certainly no stranger to culture shock and lifestyle differences. I had expected them, but I hadn’t considered the difficulty of adjusting to a new country as an “accessory” without my own purpose for living there.

 

If you’d like to read more, click the link to the article…

Guest POV-Entering the US for the first time…

I have a few more tales of Thailand, but Ravi and I received the following email over the weekend from Ravi’s dad and I thought it would be a shame if I didn’t share it with everyone.

We are back and safe…
The trip back was uneventful.
Flights were on time, luggage arrived ok.
Nothing happened, other than the expected.

At NYC I saw an Indian girl (must have been 25ish), software programmer type. She had some issues getting a cart at JFK. Then again she was right ahead of me getting a cart at Logan. She looked puzzled as she was trying to put coins in the machine and there was no place to put them. She was to pay $3 for the cart.

I helped her, saying you need dollar bills. She asked for change for a twenty. I did not have. Then she offered me coins for my three dollar bills. I agreed.She gave me three coins, I said what is this? They were dollar coins. She explained and I accepted them.

I was walking away as I saw she again had problems. One of the dollar bill was getting rejected. So I straightened out the bill and it was fine.

I smiled and told her I had a similar problem 40 years ago so I understand…She was from Hydrabad, South India, she thanked me.

So 40 years later US airports are still not hospitable to foreigners. She would have been fine if she had an international credit card.

Forty years ago, I had thought that I needed a dime to make a collect call (so said the phone), and I had two nickles ……..

While the carts in Singapore, Phuket and Tokyo airports were free.

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