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There are plenty of places where you can follow the news updates about the tragedy of the Boston Marathon.  I can only tell you that this is a tragedy that hits incredibly close to home for me.

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Between 1997 when I began working at the Westin hotel (tower in the left side of this picture) around the corner from the Marathon Finish line (approximately just after the bus on the far right on Boylston Street) and 2002 when I moved to NYC for grad school, I was in this part of Boston either daily or weekly.  But between 2002 and today, whenever I’m in Boston, I almost always pass through this part-one of my closest friends lives 4 blocks away from where the explosions occurred (yes, he’s safe-he was the first person I reached out to, as are all of our friends and family), some of my favorite restaurants and shops are in this area, and it is one of the parts of Boston I consider home.

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While I do consider Singapore home, my heart belongs to Boston.

And my heart weeps.

Wordless Wednesday: Wikki Stix

Elanor is all about “projects,” so when I was offered a chance to review Wikki Stix**, I knew E would like to try them.  I was happy to find a project that didn’t involve cleaning paint, glue, or other nonsense off my table and floor.  I’m still recovering, so that it was something we could do together that didn’t require me to walk or drive or otherwise be active was appealing.

ws1Ellie checking out the Wikki Stix before we opened the packages.  My first impression was that they’re like slightly stick pipe cleaners that can harden to become sculpture.  But they’re not sticky pipe cleaners-they’re yarn dipped in a type of wax!

ws2Our packages of Wikki Stix came with a few suggestions for projects.  Here Ellie is making the top half of a person.

ws5Our finished person.  I wanted to name him/her, but Ellie dismantled him/her.  Alas, nameless person, we barely knew you….

ws3Our Wikki Sticks had a connect the dot project on the opposite side of the directions/project suggestions.  You stick the stix together to make a continuous line.

ws4It’s a bird!

ws7A basket ball that Ellie felt needed some extra Wikki Stix to make it “even more beautiful”

ws8We made her name, of course

ws9Ellie did some free-form art with them.

I wish I could show you what any of these looked like in their final, solid state, but E’s final “project” was to make a ball of them, and that’s what hardened.

It occurs to me that these are not only a fun art project (for the 4+ crowd), but possibly the perfect airplane toy.  They’re compact and light, they can stick so they’re not necessarily easily lost, high entertainment value (we played for over an hour) and they have easy clean-up.  If you buy the Rainbow Pak of 24 wikki stix, it’s only 8.50, which is far less than I usually shell out for things to keep my kids happy in the air.

If, like me, you’re craft-impaired, you might like their sets like the the alphabet cards, or the activity set.  There’s even a glow in the dark kit.

Want to buy Wikki Stix?

Singapore readers–You can buy them in-store at Times Bookstores, or on their Website.  Use the discount code EXPATBOS on the website to get a 10% discount at check out on the website (use the code and click “apply coupon” upon checkout). Valid now until May 31, 2013.  Support a fellow parent entrepreneur!

US readers–The website provides FREE worldwide shipping, so you too can take advantage of the promotional discount code.  (If you want a currency converter, go here-set it as from SGD to USD)

**I received the Wikki Stix in the first picture in exchange for a blog post.  All opinions expressed within are my own.**

Disney Princesses on Ice

During the very short interval between my hospital stays, I was able to take Ellie to Disney Princesses on Ice.  I’d bought the tickets long before I was hospitalized, but it was a well timed reward. Ellie and I are very close.  My absence had been really rough on her; after I got home she looked at me and said “It broke my heart when you were in the hospital,” which almost made me break down crying.  Spending an afternoon where it was just the two of us, especially as I’d be re-hospitalized a few days later, made it a really special day.

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IMG_8052Ariel as a mermaid, at the end of “Under the Sea”

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That Ariel was the featured princess was a big part of why I knew Elanor would love it.  Ariel is her favorite princess.  Ariel was my favorite princess until I saw the movie roughly 74,329 times in the past two years.

IMG_8108I was really happy to see Tiana. That there are so few princesses of color, and that they aren’t featured nearly as often as the white princesses is definitely something I find a bit troubling.

IMG_8185The Sleeping Beauty number was pretty awesome. Here you see Malificent in her dragon form breathing fire, and a pattern of flame ignited on the ice.

IMG_8199Cinderella made her entrance in a carriage

IMG_8295This is the only picture Ellie let me take of her.  Sigh.  Adorably, she was dressed as Ariel and the little girl next to her was also dressed as Ariel!

It was really cool to meet one of my readers, D when we were at the show.

I bought too much merchandise, of course (mostly for E, but some guilt “sorry I didn’t take you too” gifts for Rhi, even though she could care less), but we had such a lovely afternoon.

Wordless Wednesday–Visitors!

Back in December we had our second (non-family) visitors-my college roommate Love and her mom.  Love was my college roommate and remains a good friend.  These day’s she’s a Peace Corps volunteer stationed in Mongolia.  Her mom lives in Southern California.  So they both flew to Singapore and we got to play host!

IMG_7496I took them shopping in the arcade in Little India, and we wandered Tekka Market.

IMG_7527Love jumped for joy at Marina Barrage (where we also had a wonderful view of the sun setting)

IMG_7560We visited the Night Safari (although we didn’t do the zoo/visit the pandas)

IMG_7634The National Orchid Gardens were a hit

IMG_7666We went to Chinatown, although we skipped the Tiger Beer tower

IMG_7708And of course, we went to visit the Merlion

When I originally started the blog (just about 3 years ago, actually), I knew that very people I knew had ever been to Signapore and weren’t likely to come visit.  We’re of an age where many of our friends are settling down and spawning-and just because we’re crazy enough to drag our kids halfway around the world doesn’t mean I think anyone else should (unless they want to).  It’s not cheap, and the time zone shift sucks.  So I figured the blog would be my way of sharing Singapore with the friends back home.

I’ll save the sappy “it’s become so much more than that” speech for my actual 3 years in Singapore misty-eyed love-fest.

What I will say is that it so special to me when I have had the rare opportunity to show a friend a physical place.  To share a moment with them in person instead of via picture, video, blog post, etc.

Haw Par Villa (warning-some images are NSFW)

I have never dropped acid.  But thanks to Haw Par Villa, I think I can image what that must be like–because it’s the strangest trip I’ve ever taken.

IMG_7838I may not do drugs, but these pandas definitely do…

What is Haw Par Villa?

Previously known as ‘Tiger Balm Gardens’, Haw Par Villa was later renamed after its former owners, the Aw brothers – Boon Haw and Boon Par, who made a fortune in the early 1900s selling Tiger Balm, a cure-all paste created by their father.

Haw Par Villa is like no other place in the world, with over 1,000 statues and 150 dioramas that dramatise Chinese legends and folklore. Founded on Chinese legends and values, this historical theme park has large, imposing statues from famous legends of old – featuring characters like Fu Lu Shou, Confucius and the Laughing Buddha.

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IMG_7839This would prove to be one of the LEAST creepy statues

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As I walked around, I tried to read the information plaques to better understand what I was seeing.  Much like the statues themselves, some are in better repair than others.  I was familiar with some of the stories (Madame White Snake, for example) and others were new to me.

I reached out via twitter as I was there asking what people thought of/remembered about Haw Par Villa.

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I tend to think of myself as a fairly liberal parent.  I’m strict about school and behavior, but I don’t filter music for the girls and I don’t believe in censoring books (if you want to read it, read it).  I’m open minded.  Haw Par Villa put that to the test–I can’t imagine bringing Ellie here (Rhi is too young to comprehend what she sees–or that’s what I’m telling myself).

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As you would expect in a park paid for by the inventors of Tiger Balm, there was a lot of Tiger statuary.

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While it is at times extremely confusing and creepy, Haw Par Villa is also beautiful.  The morning I was there, I saw fewer than 10 other people.  Solitude is not something you often experience in Singapore.  While the bizzare statues FAR outnumber the beautiful, I saw beautiful statues as well.

IMG_7896A small shrine I stumbled across in a corner of the park.

Singapore isn’t a country that places a lot of value on its past.  Since I’ve been here, the Urban Redevelopment Authority gazetted Bukit Brown cemetary for demolition (see Kirsten’s moving post here), and closed the historic Tanjong Pagar train station (see Flora’s post here) in favor of Woodlands Train Checkpoint.  Knowing that, I’m somewhat surprised Haw Par Villa has survived, and is even being maintained by the Singapore Tourism Board, especially as it doesn’t produce any sort of financial profit (I doubt that 5 dollar parking fee pays for the guard-I was the only car there last Friday, and the park itself is free).

IMG_7847One of the many statues being freshened up with a new coat of paint.

While I’m sure that I could learn many a lesson from the statues at Haw Par Villa, my most common reaction was to tilt my head to the side and try to figure out just what was going on, even with the help of the plaques (and there isn’t always one).

IMG_7874For instance, I can relate to the mom resignedly trying to keep her pants up as her toddler tries to climb her leg.  Been there.  Solidarity, sister–I feel your pain.

IMG_7875Or perhaps not.  Now I’m wondering if that kid isn’t screaming “MOM THERE ARE PEOPLE DYING OVER THERE, WHY ARE YOU STILL TALKING TO YOUR FRIEND ABOUT YOUR NEW PAIR OF SHOES????? MOOOOOOM!!! MOMEEEEE!!!!”  I don’t understand what the seemingly disconnected halves of the tableau are supposed to teach me.

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However, the kitschy and random statues are not the big attraction at Haw Par Villa.  The 10 Courts of Hell is.  I won’t go through each court and what the punishments are (if you want to see that, this post by Where Sidewalks End does so) but a few of the highlights

  • Rhiannon should probably take note that disobeying a sibling means spending some time being ground by a stone…and hand over the crayon.
  • I can look forward to getting my body sawn in two for misusing books, possession of pornography (I wonder if I’ll do some drowning in blood like the prostitutes for writing pornography as well?), breaking written rules and for wasting food–I’m guilty of all of them.
  • Cheating on an exam?  I have some former students who can look forward to their intestines and organs getting pulled out.

IMG_7934Disrespect to elders carries the same punishment as escaping from prison–your heart will be cut out.

There are also serious consequences for things like rape, tax evasion, driving someone to their death, robbery and so forth.

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As if the 10 Courts of Hell isn’t disorienting enough on its own, you emerge from the dark cavern to this statue…

IMG_7959Kissing Cockroaches are not what I need to see after the 10 Courts of Hell–I’m already freaked out, thanks.

However, none of what I’ve highlighted thus far wins the crown for weirdest thing I saw at Haw Par Villa.  The image below wins that prize.

IMG_7844I have so many questions about this.

It’s a theme park highlighting Chinese Mythology and Confucian lessons for the local population.  The country is a former Brit Colony, but it became a colony in 1824, which is over fifty years after we declared our independence.

There is no plaque to explain the presence of a mini statue of liberty.  There is NO other statue relating to another country such as France or Brazil.

Just a random, inexplicable minature Statue of Liberty.

So many questions about this.

If you’d like to see more photos of my visit to Haw Par Villa, go check out my set on Flickr here.

If you’d like to read more about other blogger’s visits to Haw Par Villa (and if you have a blog post, link it below in comments and I’ll add it to the list)

Wordless Wednesday-Christmas 2012

Let’s file this under “better late than never.”

IMG_7739Baking Xmas Cookies

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Family & Tree photo

IMG_7756Note for Santa from Elanor (not in the picture-I signed Rhi’s name too). Cookies and Milk for Santa. Carrots are for Rudolph.

IMG_7757Before the unwrapping frenzy

IMG_7762Ellie and her Doc McStuffins Medical Kit (I went to 4 or 5 toys r us to find this damn thing in California)

IMG_7765Rhi with her Rody (formerly Ellie’s, hence it’s from Ellie)

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A (Vegas) Indian Wedding–The Reception

So this will be the last of the wedding related posts, although I may eventually do more about Vegas.  If you missed any of the previous ones, they were

Pictures of the girls from the various wedding events

A (Vegas) Indian Wedding

So, as I noted in the post about the wedding, we missed the very end of the ceremony because the kids had gotten too fidgety.  We ended up in the hallway we’d danced through earlier with plenty of other kids and parents.  Ellie made a friend with an adorable little boy. His mom and I joked about arranging them/everyone reuniting at the hotel in 20/25 years for their wedding.

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After all the guests had filtered out to the hall and we were waiting for the banquet hall to open, I took some photos and hung out with family.  I loved the flowers used throughout the wedding, but these were among my favorites.  There was one on every table in the hall.

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I made sure to get a few photos with family members.  Here I am with Ravi, and then with his cousin (and the Groom’s sister) Deva.

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Ellie had spent a lot of the wedding days hanging out with her new best pal/second cousin R (Deva’s daughter).  R is about a year younger than Ellie (a few weeks away from age 3, and Ellie is a few weeks past 4 in these photos).

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They handed out roses to all the female guests.  Ellie made sure to get two and ran one of them over to R.  She and R showed us the roses and then promptly began to sword fight with them.

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We were let into the banquet hall, which again had gorgeous flowers. The picture below is the bride and groom’s table.

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The cake was on display

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Once everyone was seated, Adi and Pooja entered.

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Fairly early in the event, they cut the cake.  They invited R up to cut it with them.  Ellie decided this meant she should be part of it, too and I would’ve brought her back to our table, but Adi and Pooja very sweetly included her.  The girls helped them cut the cake.

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They then fed each other and gave bites to various family members, including Elanor.

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We got to have some cake and hear a few of the speeches before the girls got cranky and needed to go back to the hotel to go to bed.

It was such a wonderful event and I was really glad to be a part of it.

If you want to see all my wedding photos, the album here (please let me know if you have any issues-I’ve been meaning to upload to flickr as well-the link is to a facebook album, but the photos are public-which means you should see them even without an FB account).

A Vegas (Indian) Wedding-The Wedding

On the wedding day, the bride’s party assembled in one part of the Mandarin Oriental, while the groom’s family assembled in the elevator lobby that went directly to the function space (they have another lobby which is the main lobby–it’s a very strange set-up–this one is isolated from the rest of the hotel specifically so that people can head to the function area without going through the hotel).

There’s a very interesting Gujarati wedding tradition called the Baraat.  The first part of the wedding is that the groom keeps the bride’s family waiting.  While we were waiting in the dedicated lift lobby, some of the women began to sing traditional songs.  In the past, the Baraat was the procession from the groom’s house to that of the bride, and was meant to be long and loud as possible.  I don’t speak Gujarati, and neither does Ravi, so I can’t translate what the song is about.

We eventually took the lift to the third floor, where the function space was.  But the Baraat wasn’t quite over yet.  First there was a lot of dancing, and taking our time to inch along the hall.  Ravi used the baby as an excuse not to dance, and Ellie was a bit overwhelmed, so I danced for all of us.  I can’t really dance, so I mostly just tried my best to mimic what everyone else was doing.

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Eventually, though, we reached a gate, where Adi (as I understand it) was greeted by Pooja’s family.  We entered the room where the ceremony would take place and Adi was seated.  The priest spoke in both Gujarati (or Hindi?) and English.  Then they put up a curtain so that Adi couldn’t see the bride enter.  Pooja entered under a canopy.

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Then she was seated, the curtain still up between them.  The priest spoke for a while and then the curtain was dropped.

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The next big traditional thing that they did is that the bride has to put a garland around the groom’s neck.  But it is the job of the groom’s friends to lift him out the way, so it took a number of tries.  In the picture below, you can see Adi’s friends lifting him out of the way as he avoids the garland yet again.

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I think it was about this point that Rhi got hungry.  So I excused myself and asked the staff to find a place for me to breastfeed.  I can confidently say that in over a year of breastfeeding, trying to do so while wearing a chanya choli was the biggest challenge I faced, both in terms of just getting to the *ahem* equipment, and then trying to get dressed again (and even so, had to ask my mother in law to help me fix the drape afterward).

When I arrived back at the wedding, there was a lot happening with the fire.

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I have to admit, of all the Gujarati traditions, the fire related ones were the ones I’d wanted to do the most at my own wedding.  Ravi had said a firm no, so this was my first time seeing them in person.  The picture below is one of my favorites from the wedding.

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After that was the seven (?) steps around the fire.  I got to go up to the mat where they were and participate in throwing carnation petals at them as they passed us (which you see flying through the air in the next shot).

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There was a bit where Adi put Pooja’s big toe on a number of bundles, each representing a promise, but I was a bit lost as to what was fully going on.  There was a very sweet unscripted moment when one of the young guests ran up to Pooja to give her flowers.

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I missed the final bit of the wedding as my girls were both fussy.  So the entire family (my inlaws, Ravi, myself and the girls ened up out in the hallway…along with the majority of the other young guests/families).

The thing that’s a bit odd (from an American perspective) about Indian wedding is that it is considered totally fine to step out and wander back in, and is even expected to a certain extent.

But I had great fun, and would love to attend another.  I know that in India they are far longer than 3 days.  When we visited in 2006, I got to attend a Garba party where the women were dancing with sticks.  Adi’s younger sister had wedding related events for more than two weeks!

A Vegas (Indian) Wedding-Part 1, Pre-wedding events

A while back, I posted some photos of the girls from the various wedding events that took us to Las Vegas.  I had meant to do another post about the wedding, but never got around to it.

We were in Vegas for the wedding of Ravi’s first cousin, A.  It was a three day event held at Aria and the Mandarin Oriental (which is next door to Aria).

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On the first night, there was a dinner followed by The Cirque Du Soleil show, Zarkana.  To liven things up, they hired two showgirls to come and pose so that guests could have pictures taken with them.  We brought the girls to dinner, but I had to leave with them shortly thereafter as we had a babysitter coming.  I needed to run through everything with the sitter before heading back to catch the show.

I have a terrible confession to make.  I missed a chunk of the show because it was dark and we were still incredibly jetlagged…and I fell asleep.  My father in law stayed awake and gave it rave review.  I loved what I saw, but I’m not actually qualified to write a review.

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view from the 26th floor

On the second night, there was the sangeet and mendhi party.  It was held at a bar on the 26th floor of the Mandarin Oriental (they’d rented it out so that we could all bring the kids and such).  I sent the girls over with my inlaws and then spent far too much time trying to get my sari on correctly.  Had I thought about it, I should’ve asked any of the women there to help me and they could’ve saved me SO much time.  But because I’d successfully done my own sari once, I was convinced I could do it again and I lost track of time trying to follow the direction in this video to do a Gujarati drape.

Screen Shot 2013-01-20 at 5.55.16 PMWhile I was getting ready, Ellie was getting mendhi.  She was exhausted (as you can see in this photo) and was passed out on a couch when I got there, although she did wake up a bit later.

IMG_6729Rhi, on the other hand, was all party party party.  Here she is with Ravi’s Uncle (and the groom’s dad).

IMG_6732There was singing and dancing.  I got danced a bit, but mostly got my own mendhi done and took photos.

Vegas Highlights

There’s an American cable channel called “The Travel Channel.”  Many of my American friends know I had an unhealthy relationship with this channel for a number of years.  As a broke college student/grad student/student teacher/teacher I had few resources with which to travel.  So I did my traveling online and on television.  I’m also a sucker for learning how things work, and am easily transfixed by shows that talk about the secret underground passages in Disney allowing cast members to show up where they’re supposed to be rather than wander aimlessly or that detail the intricate workings of the Bellagio fountain.  The Travel Channel often does dedicated weeks to places like Vegas.  As a result, I’d spent hours thinking about what my first trip to Vegas might be like.

I never pictured taking a one year old and a four year old with me.

IMG_6733A random Elmo of many Elmos trolling Las Vegas Boulevard suckering parents like myself out of money for photo ops with our children.

However, while my trip involved a few more random encounters with Elmo and Hello Kitty and fewer strip clubs and drinking than I pictured, I absolutely loved it.  Vegas is unlike anything I’ve ever experienced before.  It’s a playground that lets you pretend you’re in Venice in the morning and Paris in the afternoon.

We went to Vegas for a cousin’s wedding on Ravi’s side of the family the last week of November 2012.  The wedding was 3 days, and we stayed a week.

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We stayed at Aria, a hotel connected to a mall called Crystal’s.  I was a bit saddened to discover that this meant I was not entitled to freebies from the Harry Winston shop there (j/k).  It’s a large property on The Strip (Las Vegas Boulevard) next to Bellagio.

I felt like we had a reasonable amount of time to do some exploring.  We were never bored, and we never ran out of things to do, even with the girls.

IMG_7149Holiday floral arrange in the foreground, Fiori Di Como in the background

For me, the highlights included seeing the Chihuly sculpture that takes up a vast part of the Bellagio lobby’s ceiling, Fiori Di Como.  I adore blown glass, and I’ve seen a number of shows that talk about this sculpture, so I was thrilled to my toes to see it in person.  It is extraordinary, and no words of mine can do it justice.

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It’s a river of chocolate. A 27 foot tall chocolate river.  Need I say more?

I fell in love with the dancing fountains at Bellagio.

I was, in fact, so transfixed by them that I made one of the dumbest decisions of the past few years.  My purse was in the basket of my stroller, but I knew I wouldn’t be vigilant during the show.  So I put the purse on the ground and put my foot on the strap.  I was so enchanted by the four minute show set to “Viva Las Vegas” by Elvis that afterwards I’d totally forgotten about the purse (watch the video clip-it was awesome).  I walked away and didn’t realize it for a good 5-10 minutes.  OF COURSE by the time we’d run back, the purse was gone.

This would’ve sucked under most circumstances.  What made it something of a crisis was that my passport and Ravi’s passport along with my Singaporean foreign identification card and the girl’s fin cards were all in my purse as well as the usual suspects of cash and credit cards.  Ravi and I couldn’t leave the US without our passports, and replacing the Singaporean ID was going to be a hassle (one that is finally getting sorted this week–with the holidays, it took MOM a long time to do the paperwork on their end).

All is well that ends well-we experienced no credit card fraud, there was very little cash total in the purse, and getting the passports replaced was a pain only in that it required a very long in person visit with a passport agency in LA (topic for another day).

To return to my original point, though.  Bellagio’s Fountains.  Could have happily watched them for hours on end.  If Ravi ever surprised me with a room at Bellagio overlooking the fountains, I would be a very happy woman.  I’d also be a very boring travel partner as I’d want to watch the fountains all night once they shift to an every 15 minutes format.

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Elanor, Amit (my FIL) and I rode the gondolas at the Venetian resort, and were serenaded by the gondolier.  Not as good as Venice, but fun nonetheless.  Walking through the Grand Canal Shops was amazing–they have painted it (including the ceiling) to make it feel like you’re wandering Venice.  There are performers throughout.  It was a great experience.

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Caesar’s Palace was good fun, although next time I’d love to see the “Fall of Atlantis” show.  However, as we were walking through, we met Marc Antony, Caesar and Cleopatra.

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Rhi was enthralled by all the bright lights.  She clapped, she laughed, she smiled, she shrieked.  What can I say?  She’s a happy kid.

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What made Ellie happiest of all, though, was all the holiday decorations.  It didn’t matter if it was the first or fifteenth tree that day, we still heard a gasp and a shriek of “CHRISTMAS TREE!!!!”

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We got a sitter and saw Peepshow one night.  Highly recommended for burlesque fans.  For my fellow “Amazing Race” fans, Chippendales was advertising the hell out of the fact that James and Jaymes were performing–no I didn’t go, and yes, I regret that choice now.

If you want to see more photos of our trip, I’ve left the album public on my personal facebook page here.

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