Wordless Wednesday-Disney Hong Kong Day 1

Sign by the motor coach drop off.  We got into Hong Kong around 2/3pm, ate food, got sims for our cell phones, got a cab to the hotel, checked in, spent some time in the room (as Ellie had birthday surprises set up by the staff), and then headed over to the park around 6.

Fountain by the Main Gate.  Pretty during the day, but spectacular at night, when they use lights and the water choreography to music is spectacular.  Ellie could’ve stayed here all night and been equally happy.

The park was doing Halloween related evening stuff.  This was taken over in the Adventureland section of the park on our walk toward the Jungle Cruise.  Adventureland was the creepiest of the set-ups.  Ellie, however doesn’t scare easily, and Rhi apparently will sleep through anything.

Princess Ellie sitting in a throne of bones, as one does.  Also from Adventureland.  This was taken after the Jungle Cruise.  I’d only ever taken the Jungle Cruise during the day in the California Park (which is my only point of reference for Disney-never been to Florida), so I can’t speak to how the differences at night might be night time related versus Halloween related (there was something on the map about the ride being a bit different, but I don’t still have it, so I’m unsure).  Ellie thought the Jungle Cruise was awesome–it ended up being one of only two rides we went on multiple times during the trip.

She spent the entire first night, and some chunk of the second day in her Ariel costume.  Because really, if an Ariel costume isn’t appropriate Disneyland-wear, I don’t know what is.

Ellie and Daddy on the Dumbo ride in Fantasyland (which is where, over the course of the three days we spent the most time).

Throughout Fantasyland there were trick or treat stops (although sadly the candy was the same all over the park, and was a marshmallow thing with jelly in the middle that Ellie hated–I’m told by someone who was just in the Florida park, it’s different candy and everything from chocolate to skittles–kind of bummed that didn’t hold true here).  During certain hours, characters were there for photo ops.  But we got there late enough that kids were just taking turns getting their pictures taken with the decorations at the stop.

Ellie was mesmerized by the fireworks over Sleeping Beauty Castle.  We ended up watching them both nights because she was so in love with them.

Another fireworks shot

We wandered around a bit after the fireworks and then headed back to the hotel.  Ellie whined about going to bed, but was predictably asleep within minutes.

Elanor is 4

My darling Ellie,

Happy fourth birthday.  May you always embrace the world as fearlessly and with as big a heart as you do today.
Love

Mommy

PS-Stop calling me mother-it’s freaking me out.

Asking for advice-Disneyland HK

We are going to Disney HK in 3 weeks to celebrate various birthdays (primarily E’s).  I’ve booked the birthday add ons for the room (streamers, balloons and such), the meals with characters, the birthday cake to be given at a meal, and a princess makeover for E

Staying at the Disneyland HK Hotel, 3 days 2 nights.

Also worth noting-the halloween thing will be happening

Apart from that—lay it on me–tips, tricks, advice, warnings–GO!

Disneyland, Anaheim, California (USA)-2005

Wordless Wednesday—Oh, China

This photo was taken by my friend Kirsten while in Beijing, and is today’s WW picture in case you missed it on facebook and/or twitter…and because it deserves to be seen.

You know how New York has I ♥ NY shirts, and Singapore has I ♥ SG shirts and so forth?

What is the logical I ♥ shirt for Beijing?  Let’s just say I’ve been laughing at this for almost a week now and it’s still hilarious.

Best.  Souvenir.  EVER.

If you don’t get why this is funny…. BJ is American English shorthand for a blowjob. And yes, I’m incredibly immature at times.

Gujarati Princess

My in-laws came back from India with a special treat for Ellie.  I think she looks like a proper gujarati princess…if only I had my wedding bindi kicking around (it’s in the US), then the look would be complete.  I’ll have to get a sticker one or two.  We didn’t get the wrap done quite right, so I didn’t include those photos.  Ellie will be sporting this at a cousin’s wedding this coming November.

 

 

 

 

 

And for Rhiannon

500

This is my 500th post at Expat Bostonians.

I began the blog on March 8th, 2010; 2 years, 2 months and 9 or 10 days (depending on how you count the time difference) ago.  A blog seemed like the logical way to keep our friends back home apprised of what life here in the Lion City was like.  Before I moved here, the only things I knew (or thought I knew) about Singapore was that some American kid had gotten caned here when I was in high school, and that chewing gum was illegal here.

In honor of my 500th post, I thought I’d share some of my favorite posts in chronological order.

2010–Lots of factual posts (what does the money here look like), not a ton of introspection.  I think I was so busy taking in Singapore that I couldn’t really process it.

Our look see visit to Singapore — This is a favorite post because it’s my baseline.  It contains my first photos and impressions of Singapore.  This is a post I look back at to see how far I’ve come.

Awkward–My first post about hiring a helper.

4th of July, Singaporean Style–Our first big American holiday spent in Singapore, and a favorite memory to this day.  I’ve loved the American 4th of July event both years we’ve been here, and I’m looking forward to our third in a few months.

Palawan Beach–Our first visit there, and contains some of my favorite photos.

Thailand, Part 2–Describes one of the coolest things I’ve done in Southeast Asia-the Siam Safari in Phuket.  A 6 hour adventure that tried to balance eco-tourism with preserving culture, and the struggles that come with it.  I’m a nerd, so learning on vacation=YAY.  Also-BABY ELEPHANTS! Extremely long entry, but one of my all time favorites

Christmas out and about in Singapore–I was totally thrown by stores being open and seeing Christmas treated as just another state sanctioned holiday.

2011-I got to know more people and began to really participate in the blogging community here.  I started writing posts that tried to get to the why instead of the what.  WHY were things the way they were instead of a book report.

Happy (sort of ) New Years–I live tweeted the NYE special with Kirsten and this post shares some of the highlights. Sort of New Years because it was 2011 in Singapore but still 2010 in Boston.

Skin Whitening…it’s a “thing” here–One of the first posts discussing my discomfort with the way whiteness is idealized here.

Having a Maid…the bad and the ugly–Singapore practically expects you to have a maid, but few people talk about the negatives.  This post explored the negatives both from the culture clash perspective and the issues within Singapore itself (the racism and abuses).

What do I do when the power goes out and other questions I forgot to ask–just when you think you’ve figured out expat life, something happens to totally upend your sense of comfort.

Hong Kong-Goldfish Market and Street Markets–On our child-free vacation in Hong Kong, Ravi and I visited the Goldfish Market in Hong Kong and it was another really memorable vacation moment.

Bad Expat (Part 1-ur doin it rong)–In which I explain all the ways I suck at being an expat.

Seth Rogen talks about Singapore–and SG isn’t happy–this was the first time I felt like I could explain and understand both sides of a US/SG critique and conflict of humor.

Things you don’t see/hear in Singapore–After a trip home, I began to realize there are some things I never see or hear in Singapore

Maids, Cultural Expectations and the Importance of Modeling (expat to expat advice)–A post that really talks about the cultural issues (small and big) that come with having a maid.

Pink Dot 2011–I was so proud to be at Pink Dot (an celebration of all love, particularly LGBT love and the only pro-gay event in Singapore) last year, when Google stepped up as the first ever corporate sponsor.

A negative experience at a doctor’s office and maybe some news–It feels strange to put such an angry post on my “favorites/top” list.  However, I think it is well written and it clearly articulates an issue I’ve had repeatedly with older male doctors in Singapore-being condescended to/spoken to as if I were my 3 year old.  As an expat, you have to constantly negotiate cultural issues, and, in general, it is best to learn to bend and to be flexible.  However, it is also okay to have lines that you can not, under any circumstance, cross.  This experience was one of them.

Our second 4th of July in Singapore-Our second, and equally memorable 4th of July in Singapore

My tale of laptop woe grows–I take my laptop to a certified apple repair center, tragic hilarity ensues

Comparing Singaporean and American Pregnancy Guides–After having a baby in the US, I wanted to read a local pregnancy guide to figure out how the approach locally was different.

My first name is not Crystalann–I like the post more because of the really interesting conversation it inspired in the comments section about names and culture.

Validation-The post I wrote after my first fiction short story acceptance

Santa Cruz Boardwalk-A wonderful day with Ellie on vacation.  Ravi was sick, and I was pregnant, so it was one of our last big adventures just her and I before the baby arrived.  I also love the pictures.

Why I didn’t want to be in the US on 9/11-On the 10th anniversary of 9/11, I was in the US and I was reminded of many of the things I don’t like about being an American, and why we have such a bad reputation abroad.

Just WHAT is in those 8 suitcases Part 1 and Part 2 –A photo essay of the kind of nonsense we bring back to Singapore from home.

Prenatal care in the US vs Singapore–Shh, don’t tell anyone, but I might like Singaporean prenatal care better.

Rhiannon Arcadia-I got to announce and post a picture of my newly born 2nd child.  Of course it’s a favorite.

An American Halloween in Singapore–We go trick or treating!

Happy Birthday Elanor–her 3rd birthday post

Slutwalk Singapore 2011–I took the girls to slutwalk because I want to raise them to be strong independent feminists.

Wicked Green Carpet and Gala–I won tickets to the black tie gala premiere of Wicked in Singapore.  My friend Kirsten and I and our lack of social skills went…hilarity ensued.

Oh Christmas Tree—We had a great Christmas Tree, until the cats went on the offensive

Disconnect-Firing B was not a highlight of my blog, but it was one of the most significant events, and for that reason, I need to include it.

2012-I’m really proud that so far in 2012, I got nominated for a Singapore Blog Award, was named a top blog by InterNations and have started contributing professionally at White As Milk.

Irresistible-The book with my short story in it was published (the short story is under a pen name, but if you read the book, you’ll be able to figure it out, trust me)

That does not mean what you think it means–English vs English FAIL

Lessons learned from my negative maid experience–I take ownership of my mistakes in the whole B debacle

What I love about Singapore that has nothing to do with my children–I had to really think about this as all my reflexive answers have to do with my kids.

Where are you from–I share a story about Ravi and wonder aloud how my 3rd culture kids are going to react to their home culture…or if they’ll even consider it their home culture

Stuff I wish I hadn’t brought to Singapore–Things that I’ve found around the house that have me wondering just what I was thinking when I brought them to Singapore

Elanor and the ACA–why health care matters–Elanor’s story (warning–possible triggers as it does graphically describe what happened to Ellie at a week of age, including how close she came to death, and includes a photo from intensive care)

When I was six–What life was like for me in small town MA as a kid in the 80′s

My misconceptions about Expat Life–Boy did I have it wrong on some things.

Ways that living in Singapore have changed me—the shallow edition

Wild Life Sydney Zoo at Darling Harbour–the highlight of our trip to Australia

My bank is trying to Punk Me-another absurd/hilarious tale of customer service hell

Wordless Wednesday — Taj Mahal (taken Dec 2006)

See the whole set here on my flickr stream.

What do I love about SG that has NOTHING to do with my children?

I met a new friend a few days ago while Ellie was in school.  We had a wonderful conversation, and I look forward to hanging out with her again.  But she asked a question that threw me…”What do you love most about Singapore that has nothing to do with your children?”

I had to stop and really think.

When I’m asked what I love most about Singapore, almost everything that comes to mind are things that relate to my children–the zoo, the water play areas, the education my daughter is getting, the warmth of the country toward children, and so forth.

My immediate reaction was…and this surprised me a bit…the weather.  More to the point, I love wearing shorts and flip flops year round.  I love having the option to swim almost every day (although I will confess it’s been a while since I’ve been in the pool).  I love never having to shovel snow or chip ice off of my windshield.  Yes, I bitch about the humidity and yes, the non-stop heat does wear on me such that I look forward to visiting cooler climates with unreserved glee (Australia in May–18 degrees C sounds delightful…for the week we’ll be there).  Yes, I miss the beauty of a New England Fall and the slight nip to the breeze.  But I don’t miss winter and I don’t miss spring.

You can’t do this in February in Boston

However, we could move to Southern California and get perpetual summer.  So I feel as though I need to dig deeper.  So, here we go…a complete stream of consciousness, in no way organized list of reasons I love Singapore.

1-Learning about a new culture.

Apart from Michael Fay and a few pop culture references, I knew nothing about Singapore before December 2009, when Ravi applied to GNB and they suggested the SG office, as opposed to the London office we were hoping for.  Living in Singapore for almost 2 years has begun an education in what is truly a remarkable country.  No other country has accomplished the move from third world to first in such a short time (and we can debate the pros and cons of how that happened, and I’m happy to, but no one can deny that it is impressive).

Singapore is a mish-mash of cultures, and unlike the US, which is all about integration and submission to the dominant culture, Singapore acknowledges those cultures through public holidays that relate to Muslim and Christian holidays, Indian festivals and Chinese New Year.  I can attend distinct cultural events.

CNY

Thaipusam photo, courtesy of Paul Chapman (flickr stream here, blog here)

When I am confounded by Singapore, I have wonderful friends who help explain and give context.  I am deeply grateful to have Singapore Actually and Kirsten (among others) who are willing to answer and explain things from the mundane to the deeply complex.  Learning about Singapore has enriched me because it makes me re-examine so many assumptions I never realized I had.

2-I appreciate the United States (and Boston) more

We all take what we have for granted far too frequently.  In the US, I took everything from Target to Cape Cod for granted.  I am a Massachusetts native and I have never made it to Cape Cod…because I always assumed I could get around to it eventually.

It is so easy for me to get wrapped up in those things that annoy me about the US, such as the ongoing concerted effort to restrict women’s access to contraception, that I forget those things I love about the US.

Living in Singapore has made me appreciate my rights, especially my right (obligation, really) to criticize my government and to vocally advocate for change.

I also appreciate American “stuff” more.  Getting a package from my mom or in-laws with my favorite brand of BBQ chips (Wachusett Chips-made and only available locally to home) is cause for celebration.  Watching the Daily Show with Ravi is a ritual.  I’m happy that Ellie and Rhi have access to Sesame Street.

3-I’ve become a more serious photographer here

I had been getting more and more into photography after getting a digital camera.  Moving from Singapore turned me from casual vacation (and baby) photographer to amateur photographer.  I have been motivated to take a class and read up on how to make my pictures better, and long after our kids (or we) break or lose whatever souvenirs we leave Singapore with, my photographs will remain my favorite way to look back upon our time here.

Kirsten and I took the girls to Marina Barrage last Friday so that Kirsten could do a photoshoot of them (which turned into E after Rhi decided to sleep through most of it).  While we were there, I took this picture looking back at the city…and I can’t wait to go back there and do some more photography.  I also love shooting in the Botanic Garden, Sentosa, and around the city.

Loving this shot

4-The chance to travel to places I wouldn’t otherwise

I really enjoyed visiting Phuket…but let’s be real; I would never have gone there if we didn’t live regionally.  Australia, sure. Japan, probably.  But much of the region would just not have made my “traveled to” list because it was just too damn far away for places I only want to visit for 3-4 days (when it would take that long to shake off the jet lag).

As the girls age, I’m hoping to do more regional travel, like Angkor Wat, Vietnam, and so forth.  One of the negatives of not having a helper is that I don’t have the support person to do travel with the girls and Ravi only has so much vacation per year (although his allotment is generous, there is a limit).

Big Buddha, Phuket, Thailand

5-The Taxis

By far my most shallow reason for loving Singapore, but no less valid.

For close to two years, taxis were my primary mode of transportation.  I love that they are plentiful (usually).  I love that I can SMS for one, and it will come get me, usually in 5-7 minutes.  I love that they are cheap.  I am deeply amused by taxi uncle wisdom (usually).

Cabs in New York and Boston just aren’t even in the same galaxy as SG cabs and I would have lost my mind trying to get around SG without them.

Thanks, W, for inspiring this post!  Readers, what do you love best about Singapore?

7 Links Blog Project

18 months, 340 posts….it all comes down to 7

I’ve just been invited by Kirsten of Funny Little World to participate in ‘The 7 Links Blog Project‘. For this project, bloggers from all over the world make a list of their top posts in a range of categories, creating a sort of one-stop shop for 7 notable posts from their blog. Each blogger than extends this project by inviting 3 others to participate.

MY MOST BEAUTIFUL POST

Now you are 2

This is the letter I wrote to Elanor on her second birthday. While I don’t use Expat Bostonians as a parenting blog per se, I am a mom.  Watching her grow up and come into her own as a person has been one of the most fascinating (which is not to say not also frustrating at times) experiences I’ve had.

When I read back through my previous entries, this is the post that made me stop and smile at the memory.  Maybe it’s being pregnant again, but when I think about the posts that I would most like my girls to read when they’re older, this is probably one of the first I think of, even though it’s not so much about being an expat or the move.  It’s just about life.

MY MOST POPULAR POST

Voyage de la Vie at Resorts World Sentosa (show review)

I have to admit I’m kind of baffled by the unrelenting popularity of this post..it’s actually the third result in a google search for “voyage de la vie review” and the 9th link when you google “voyage de la vie” (and is the first blog link listed).  I’m not a professional reviewer…I’m just someone who has seen a LOT of theater in her day and who loves theater, and thus is fairly opinionated about theater.

This could also fall under “most suprisingly successful post” because in the year since I’ve written it, there hasn’t been a week when it wasn’t a top search term or top viewed post and quite honestly, I find that baffling!  Further, while it has the most page views, there are NO comments!

MY MOST CONTROVERSIAL POST

Skin Whitening, it’s a thing here

When I wrote this post, I thought I was just writing a “this is a local thing I find strange” post.  The post generated the most comments in the history of my blog (only 24, but that’s a lot for me), and started a fascinating discussion about race, gender,and beauty ideals.  I’ve been meaning to do a longer, more thoughtful and purposeful post on those topics for a while now, and rediscovering this post and remembering the discussion it  inspired has re-motivated me.

MY MOST HELPFUL POST

Seth Rogen talks about Singapore on Conan and SG isn’t happy

Usually I am baffled by Singapore (although less and less with the passage of time) or find myself at a loss to explain “Americans” or “Western” stuff. (I really can’t explain the election of W…sorry…I’m still mystified by it as well) to Singaporeans.

This was one brief shining moment where I actually understood both sides of a US/Singapore disconnect and felt confident in explaining it to both sides.  Long story short was that Seth Rogen appeared on a talk show (Conan O’Brien) and from the American perspective cracked a few funny jokes about Singapore–from Singapore, he BASHED their home country and was incredibly dismissive and rude.

I had considered some of my expat to expat advice for this column, but I think that this was actually more helpful and helpful on a broader scale.

MY MOST SURPRISINGLY SUCCESSFUL POST

Bad Expat, Ur Doin it Rong

My friend Maria wrote a great blog post about how to “Become an Ugly Expat in 12 easy steps” which really resonated with me.  In part because it’s a great post, and in part because it tugged at a few insecurities of mine…namely that I might kind of suck at this whole “expat thing” after dreaming of living abroad my whole life.

As with the skin whitening post, when I wrote it, I was mostly just trying to unpack my feelings and my fears.  But the ensuing conversation (which was fantastic, and the only other post besides the skin whitening one to inspire 20+ comments) really inspired me to redefine what I think makes a “good” expat and how it’s actually okay that I take my time to adjust.

It was also around this time that I really began to feel like I was part of an expat blogging community instead of just a fringe lurker.  That I might actually have something valuable to say about this experience, rather than just making a blog of random adventures around Singapore.  I began to feel more confident in my voice and I’m really proud of how this post became such a turning point for me, at least mentally/emotionally.

MY MOST UNDERRATED POST

Thailand Part 2

Maybe it’s the crappy title I gave the post, but I really feel like this was a great, and thoughtful post that has been totally overlooked.  Granted it is a long post and it is picture and video heavy.

However…

This post describe a day long adventure with Siam Safari in Phuket Thailand.  In doing so, I talk about the questionable ethics of elephant trekking and “eco-tourism” in general.  I worry about treating people’s lives (the Karen people who work at Siam Safari specifically…and this was before Kirsten educated me far more thoroughly on their lives) as a tourist attraction.

Phuket is a common vacation destination from Singapore, and elephant trekking is one of their biggest tourist draws, so this is probably the post that I wish I could ask people to go back and really read and comment upon.  If I were writing it today, I would probably have given it a better title and tried to make it a little less dense in terms of pictures and video (or done two posts, with one specifically talking about my mixed emotions on the subject).  But if you’re a new reader-I highly recommend going back and reading (and commenting) on this post.

POST I AM MOST PROUD OF

Maids, Cultural Expectations and the importance of modeling-expat to expat advice

Having a helper (or a maid, if you prefer) has been one of the most surreal experiences I’ve had.  Being an expat is loaded with opportunities for miscommunication, cultural misunderstanding and frustration.  Having a person with different cultural baggage, who is an employee in your home only multiplies and magnifies those opportunities.

The trickiest part of navigating all of this is when one or both people see something as “obvious”.  This post was born of a misunderstanding created when I thought it was “obvious” how to make a pbj (peanut butter and jelly) sandwich, when it wasn’t to B.

I’m most proud of this post because I allowed myself to be honest, to detail where *I* had screwed up.  I’m honest about how these moments of conflict are uncomfortable and challenging to navigate, particularly for the Western Expat who has never had this sort of experience before.  It’s the post I wish I had read 18 months ago before I hired a maid–and still occasionally need to read and be reminded of to help prevent frustration on both sides of the employer/helper relationship.

You never want to let frustration over these small things outweigh the biggest positive–there is someone else in your home who loves and respects your child and wants only the best for them.  Another person who loves your child and only wants the best for them is only ever a good thing.

SUMMARY

So there you have it, the best of the best….or so I think.  I hope new readers will go back and enjoy some older posts.  I read and respond to every comment left (minus the spam) and would love to see you engage with some of these older entries.

I’m asking the following bloggers to come play 7 links!

Signs of the times…

I was at Market 360 at Ion Orchard Mall tonight, doing some grocery shopping when I noticed a sign near the aisle of Japanese snack foods.

Dear Customers,

Please be informed that Japanese imports are:

  • from the non-affected parts of Japan
  • tested and approved for import by the Agri-food and Veterinary Authority (AVA)

Thank you for your attention

 

I suppose I shouldn’t be surprised by the sign.  While we are several thousand miles away from Japan (and only slightly closer than the West Coast of the US by plane), I guess it makes sense that people here are nervous about imported Japanese food and produce.  I know it’s probably not necessary, but once they found tainted milk, I decided that caution was the better part of valor and switched E to Australian milk (both are readily available here and within pennies of each other for price).  Elanor is really the only one drinking milk, and I can’t help but want to be more cautious for her.

But life marches on, and just around the corner from the Japanese food sign, I saw…

EASTER CANDY!!!!

Considering we’re atheists, Easter is just an excuse for candy consumption.  I am saddened to report that I’ve yet to spy a Reeses Easter Egg or a Reeseter Bunny for sale (don’t worry, I’ll get you my pretties…in the US, the day after Easter for half price, mwah hah hah!!!), but there’s a pretty decent variety.  Interestingly enough, I’ve yet to see a single chocolate cross or anything even quasi-religious pertaining to Easter (with the exception of one children’s board book at Kinokuniya, my favorite local bookstore).  Personally, considering it’s the year of the Rabbit, I just kept up my Chinese New Year Bunny themed decorations from February, and will take them down once we’re back in May.

We won’t actually be in Singapore for Easter–we leave Good Friday for the US (arriving on Good Friday, thanks to the joys of international travel and the international date line) and will be in town for the holiday (and more importantly the post-holiday half off candy sale!).

 

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