Every post between now and the end of the year, I’ll be highlighting a charity at the start of every post. NONE of these charities have asked me to do so; they are charities I have been touched by or believe in/donate to myself. I’ll tell you a little about the charity, why I support it and a link.
If you could get a present with all the sex ed you wanted, what would be inside? Probably some information about your sexual anatomy that isn’t just about where babies come from; something to give you a real sense of all sex can be and what you might want and need to make it feel best and most right for you, like our sexual inventory checklist; what you needed to know about doing consent right, like we’ve got at Driver’s Ed for the Sexual Superhighway.
You’d probably want something that taught you how to create and sustain healthy relationships, and something to help you figure out when it makes sense to try and work through relationship problems, and when it’s best to split. You might want something to give your sexual ideals a reality check, something to help you slow sexual things down when they’re moving too fast, and a tool to help you decide if you and a partner are ready to get sexual or not in the first place. How about detailed information on how to play it safe — and what isn’t safe — when it comes to preventing infections or unwanted pregnancy so you could enjoy your sex life with as much joy and as little strife as possible?
You might want to know how to talk with a partner about sex honestly, the basics of sex and gender, how to deal when you’re questioning your sexual orientation or gender identity, have pieces about STIs that are meant to really inform you, not scare you, like this one about genital Herpes or this one about HIV/AIDS, and a whole lot more you can find here at the big’ol present you can open, for free, 365 days a year, we call Scarleteen.
As a sex educator as a former middle school teacher, it shouldn’t be surprising that Scarleteen has a special place in my heart. One of my first real experiences with sex education was when I taught sex ed to the 7th graders at a school in Boston. I was totally blindsided by their questions. Many weren’t virgins. Many had the details of how pregnancy and STI/STD transmission really worked wrong. And then we had a student leave the school because she was pregnant…at 14 (she’d been held back a few times). This is a population starved for accurate information, and often without a safe reliable resource from which to get it, which is where Scarleteen comes in.
While teen pregnancy may be declining, 1/4 of all new STI/STD infections each year are in the teen population. Abstinence education is the norm in many parts of the US, and it has been proven time and time again that abstinence education doesn’t lead to fewer teens have sex, it leads to fewer teens having SAFE SEX.
As a parent, I want my girls to wait until they’re actually ready to be sexually active. I want them to feel safe coming to me for answers to questions, or to another trusted adult resource. But if they won’t talk to me, I sincerely hope Scarleteen is still around. It talks to, not down to, teens. Accurate information is presented in a non-judgmental way. All sexual identities are respected.
To help keep Scarleteen around, we do a recurring monthly donation of $10 a month ($120 a year) in honor of our daughters.
I have lived in Singapore for almost 2 years.
I am a huge fan of Harrods. Why do I love Harrods? Because they sell EVERYTHING. It is the most amazing mixture of affordable and ridiculously expensive stuff under one roof. It’s huge, and you can easily spend hours there. If we ever move to
Harrods London, I will spend months documenting the entire store.
It has taken me until about a month ago to learn that there is a small Harrod’s corner in Takashimaya at Ngee Ann City. That, along with the Takashimaya Food Hall were a revelation to me recently.
I am absurdly delighted with this discovery. Why? I haven’t the foggiest, as I’m not a consumer of tea, and I already own a Harrods branded bag (a mid-sized makeup bag). But somehow, I’m just happier knowing it’s there. It’s the littlest things that can brighten our days.