One week in…

Life without a maid and with two children…is exhausting.  Hence the lack of posting…each time I’ve had the choice, I’ve gone with sleep over posting.

Things are hopefully going to start improving soon, though.  We hired a twice a week housekeeper, and while we didn’t nail the entire house, MOST of it is clean. I finally figured out how to work the washer and the dryer. I’ve also started investigating buying a “tabletop” dishwasher as dishes are among the worst offenders in terms of time suckage–I have to boil the water, do the dishes by hand, etc.  Anything that can cut down on time spent on housekeeping is a bonus-I loathe housework and I resent all the writing time I’m losing to dishes, sweeping, and other nonsense.  I may be a stereotype in that I love to cook, but while I love few things more than feeding my loved ones, I find no reward in housework; only unending drudgery.

We also have a potential mothers helper and a babysitter lined up.

I’ve unpacked all but one suitcase, but I unpacked in such an erratic fashion, I don’t have the usual collection of “what the hell did they buy” pictures.

As I noted in my last post, Ellie has started Nursery 2, which is a five day a week program as opposed to her three days a week in Nursery 1.  The transition has been a little rough on her between the jet lag and the increased time in school…she’s been conking out very early (for her).  She likes her new class, and there are two children from her last class in the new one, so that makes her happy (although not her “best friend”).  While having her at school five days a week is good in terms of spending time with Rhi, and getting other things done, it’s also a lot of running around and I’m adjusting to that as well.  It does guarantee that we get out of the house every day during the week, though.

Originally I had planned that we would be doing a lot of Chinese New Year stuff this weekend.  However, this past week was so exhausting that we’ve mostly stayed home this weekend.  It’s been a huge deal to have Ravi home for four days, and a lot would not have gotten done without him.  I’m dreading his return to work tomorrow, as one of the biggest shifts in not having a helper is also not having another adult in the home.  It gets really lonely with only a three year old and 3 month old to talk to.  And while I’m lucky to have friends who have offered to hang out, the whole at home alone with the kids thing is still new enough that I’m just overwhelmed by the idea (which is contradictory, yes, but no less legitimate).

I’m hoping it will get easier.  With the help coming on board, adding medications back into my life (I’ve been abstaining so that I can breastfeed, but things are at a point where the medication is more important than breastfeeding), and possibly the addition of a car (as I’ve learned from friends, leasing is surprisingly affordable when put up against how much I spend on cabs) things will begin to find a routine.  With routine things will sort themselves out.  My house will never again be as clean as it was when we had B, but the privacy (and that I’ve turned her room into a pantry that I love–or will, once I fill it with shelves from IKEA) is worth it.


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10 Responses to One week in…

  1. Robin says:

    I’ve been following your blog for a while now but have been shy to post many comments so far. I’m a stay-at-home mom with a 3-yr-old, no car, and no maid. To help out, I bought a robot vacuum. The scheduling function is wonderful as long as my son picks up his toys. 🙂 I also splurged and bought a built-in dishwasher. I don’t regret either one and I can’t imagine going back to the days of a broom and dustpan! Well wishes to you.

    Oh, PS – Looking forward to your update on the hair removal post. I’m soooo eager to try it myself. But no worries. One day at a time. 🙂

    • Crystal says:

      The robot vacuum is a great idea.

      Thanks for reminding me about the QPX update. I’ll do that within the next few days…but the short version is thumbs way up.

  2. Dawn says:

    It sounds like you’re doing great! And things WILL get better as you get used to the situation and get more help. In the meantime, I don’t think anyone will judge you if your house is a bit cluttered or you look a bit sleep deprived. Also, getting a car seems like a super good idea. You can have the car seats installed permanently. My suggestion, since you will have to pick up/drop off E from nursery school with Rhi in tow, is to have (if you don’t already) a fold-up car-seat attachment stroller (basically, just a frame that the car seat hooks into; I have a Graco one), which you keep in the trunk of your car. That way, you just unfold it, pop out Rhi, put her in the stroller, and walk E in. I’m doing that nearly every day with F and I, and the only time it’s a PITA is when there’s inclement weather, which I gather you rarely have to worry about in Singapore.

    • Crystal says:

      I’m super excited about the potential car. I do have a frame, since I lug Rhi around in the Graco. I have both a snap and go and I got a graco adapter for the Bee. While we don’t have PITA weather like snow and ice…a downpour is definitely a major PITA.

  3. Claire says:

    It will get easier, I’m sure of that. And it sounds like you are doing an amazing job already! You know I’m about for a United Square coffee whenever you like 🙂

  4. Laura says:

    Hope things are starting to get a little easier for you and will continue to do so moving forward!

  5. bookjunkie says:

    I am so happy to read that things are getting better 🙂 Sorry been offline for a week but I really enjoy catching up on your posts. Yours is always the first blog I visit 🙂 There is just so much warmth and honesty in your posts that I love.

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