Yes, today has been better. Thanks for all the comments, emails and texts. The post yesterday was really just a necessary vent so that I could decompress.
In the interest of balance, I thought I’d list things that never fail to make me happy. Obviously Ravi and the girls, that goes without saying. This is a list of far more superficial things that make me happy. It is not comprehensive, but these are all never fail to make me happy things.
Reeses Peanut Butter Cups (photo source)
This has been my favorite candy since I was a little kid. There is comfort food, and then there is THE comfort food. For me, THE comfort food is the joy of chocolate and peanut butter mixed together.
The song “Take Me or Leave Me” from Rent, at the loudest possible volume. Also good alternatives “Out Tonight” from Rent, “Defying Gravity” from Wicked, “Bitch” by Meredith Brooks, “So Much Better” from Legally Blonde, “Gimme Gimme” from Thoroughly Modern Millie, “Forget about the Boy” from Thoroughly Modern Millie, “No Good Deed” from Wicked, “Black Velvet by Alannah Myles, “Living on a Prayer/Start me Up” mash-up from Glee, “Black Cat” by Janet Jackson, “Lollipop” by Framing Hanley, and “Pour Some Sugar Down on Me” by Def Leppard. The themes to Xena: Warrior Princess and Buffy the Vampire Slayer are also good for working through anger to a happy place.
As I mentioned yesterday, a long hot shower is a magical cure-all for me.
For as long as I can remember, books have always been an escape for me. I am a fast reader, and I lose myself in books. My love of stories, is, in part, why I’m a writer. When I am sad or just need to check out of my life for a while, my first instinct is to read a familiar book. I love the trilogy in the picture above (Dark Jewels trilogy by Anne Bishop), and there are tons of books I’ll gravitate to in specific moods. I’ll re-read a book by Jennifer Weiner, Nora Roberts, MaryJanice Davidson, Mercedes Lackey, or I’ll pick up a go-to book like lCandy Girl by Diablo Cody or Confederates in the Attic by Tony Horotwitz or The Year of Living Biblically by AJ Jacobs (which might surprise some of my friends, given that I’m an atheist).
These have been christened my “fishy pants,” as they feature the fish from One Fish Two Fish Red Fish Blue Fish by Dr Seuss. I got them in 2006, during my month of bed rest prior to surgery. I spent most of that month on a ton of pain medication, barely able to stay awake for a few hours at a time. But every so often I would get so stir crazy (I was existing in our guest room, as even Ravi turning over in bed moved the bed enough to cause spasms–which was absolutely fabulous as newlyweds) and someone would take pity on me and load me into a wheelchair and take me out. Ravi was at a conference in Portland, and my mom was taking care of me. She took me to Target and I found these in the men’s section. They are made of flannel, which after almost 6 years are beyond soft. Paired with a tank top, they are my go-to hang out around the house pajama pants (or paired with a tank and a sweater in the winter back home), even if I have to crank the ac. Whenever I wear them, Ravi usually breaks into a song of his own creation aka the “fishy pants song”, which usually makes me smile. Even Ellie, upon seeing them, exclaims “Fishy Pants!”