Category Archives: Assimilation

Americanized, sort of

I was listening to Elanor talk in the following video a few days ago and it struck me how thoroughly she has assimilated into the US. By comparison, this is what she sounds like now Elanor has lost every last … Continue reading

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Showers

After all my years of complaining about how much I missed hot showers in the US, after all the boiling showers I took on vacation….. I find myself showering in the more tepid temperatures familiar to anyone in Singapore. Oh, … Continue reading

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The end of an era

We are leaving Singapore. In less than a month. This wasn’t planned. A company head-hunted Ravi, one thing lead to another, and it ended in a job offer that he accepted. We’d hoped the girls and I would follow later–giving … Continue reading

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Superstitions–the number 13

Something struck me when I was riding the elevator in my new building—there is a 13th floor. In the US, there is a superstition about the number 13. I actually had to google “why,” as I just knew it as … Continue reading

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“How do you and your kids enjoy life in Singapore?”

I’ve recently been emailing with a potential expat. I had a number of Singaporean expats respond to my emails, answer questions, and generally be a great resource for our move. Some of them are now irl friends (or were and … Continue reading

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US vs Singapore Public Schools—Grading

One of the things I struggle with as a foreign parent is understanding the grading system in Singapore. On one hand, I find the grading system incredibly forgiving. Everything over a 85 is an A? 70-85 is a B? 50-70 … Continue reading

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Her mother tongue isn’t Tamil

***A quick note of explanation before I get into the post.  English is the language of instruction in Singapore.  However, all students must take a second language–called a Mother Tongue  (henceforce I’ll refer to it as MT) language.*** I recently … Continue reading

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Elanor’s identity

Two years ago, Elanor often identified purely as Singaporean or Indian, so we began to explain that she is American.  Not in a “here is our flag, learn the pledge, sing patriotic songs, learn the composition of congress” way, but … Continue reading

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P1 Registration—It’s over. Someone get me a drink.

It’s over. She got in. Alcohol.  Now.  Please. At the advice of my friends K and P, I waited until the final day to register Elanor.  This means I’ve spent the last few days monitoring numbers and feeling nervous, but … Continue reading

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Registration Night Jitters

Singapore, what the fuck have you done to us? An update on the immunization drama on Tuesday—we have an email from the NIR saying that they have our data and that they are processing it, but it won’t be available … Continue reading

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